Relationship advices

Breakups and Divorces • 8d ago

Looking for advice for myself (22F) and my boyfriend (44M).

I could really use some help! I'm not seeking opinions on the age gap—I understand that aspect already. We've been dating for quite a while, and I'm feeling conflicted about whether to continue the relationship or end it. He treats me very well, but I sometimes wonder if that's out of fear of losing me. He often shares how lucky he feels, gives me compliments, discusses our future together, and occasionally covers expenses (though I assure you, I'm not with him for his money). Lately, I’ve started to question if I'm really ready for a relationship or if I’m just bored with our current dynamic. It feels more like a friendship than a romance to me. I've had these thoughts before, and when I’ve shared them with him, it always ends the same way—I end up reminiscing about our good times and decide to stay. But I don’t want to remain together solely because of our history; I need to think about our future and whether it has potential. My mom isn’t very supportive of our relationship (which I understand), and he hasn't met anyone else in my family. I'm apprehensive about how they would react to the age difference. Meanwhile, I've met his family and friends. Given the time that's passed, I feel like if I’m serious about this relationship, he should have met my family by now. I worry about continuing in a relationship that my family won't support. On the flip side, I fear losing someone who treats me so well because I doubt I'll find that again. That brings me back to my earlier concern: is he nice to me out of genuine affection or fear of being alone again? He often mentions that I'm his last chance at love and happiness. This leaves me feeling lost. I dislike confrontation, yet I don’t want to prolong this uncertainty. Should I share my feelings with him again, risking being drawn back in? Or should I directly say that it feels more like a friendship and that I need some space? I appreciate any advice you might have! Sorry for the repetition; I'm just jotting down my thoughts as they come.


Infidelity • 8d ago

Challenging circumstances in a budding relationship

I'm a 33-year-old woman, attractive and well-liked, with a great social circle and a positive outlook on life. I've recently entered a wonderful relationship with a generous 39-year-old man whom I truly care for. He's thoughtful, a fire sign, and is so attentive—often bringing me food and giving me foot massages every night if I ask. He also takes care of my bills and comes home on time every night. We're approaching the four-month mark in our relationship, but I've noticed our intimacy has dwindled to just once a week, if I’m lucky. When I ask him about it, he reassures me that everything is okay, despite it previously being four or five times a week. This shift made me feel compelled to check his phone at night, even though we both have each other's passwords. In the deleted messages, I discovered that he was using an escort messaging service and inquired about a quick visit. I was devastated. I attempted to bring it up subtly, but I didn’t want to reveal that I had snooped. I asked him to communicate openly if something was wrong or if he needed a break, but he seemed oblivious and insisted I clarify my concerns. I wanted to speak up but felt stuck. If we were to part ways, not only would I face financial challenges, but our families are intertwined, having known each other for three years. How should I confront him about my findings? **TL;DR:** I've noticed a decline in our physical relationship and found evidence of him seeking escorts. I'm heartbroken and unsure how to confront him about it.


Friendship and Relationships • 8d ago

I made a mistake with my best friend who is a girl.

I’m an 18-year-old guy and recently attended a high school party with my best friend, an 18-year-old girl I’ll call B. We’ve been friends for the past two years, and while I don’t have many close friends, she doesn’t either, aside from her boyfriend. I’ve always appreciated our friendship and never wanted more. At the party, her boyfriend wasn’t there, and B playfully asked me to lift her onto my shoulders. I went ahead and did it, not thinking much of it. Unfortunately, some people took pictures, and those photos ended up reaching her boyfriend, which understandably made him upset. While I don’t have strong feelings about her boyfriend, I care about B and want her to be happy since he’s a good guy. I suggested she talk to him several times, but she refused. I took responsibility for my actions and apologized, but it seems she hasn’t taken it to heart. She’s been distant ever since and doesn’t want to talk. Any advice on how to handle this situation?


Breakups and Divorces • 8d ago

A 22-year-old man suddenly broke up with a 24-year-old woman, and now she's looking for ways to move on and find closure. How can she stop thinking about him every day?

She feels somewhat desperate and genuinely misses him; he was her first love, and their intimacy and conversations were fantastic. They also live just 30 minutes apart and occasionally work together.


Infidelity • 8d ago

[35M] I've uncovered details about my wife's [37F] past that are difficult for me to process. I need some support.

I'm posting anonymously for obvious reasons. So, yesterday, my curiosity got the better of me. I came across my wife's old phone in a drawer, guessed her PIN, and decided to take a look. I know it's wrong, but I was curious. I didn’t find much in her photo library, just a few softcore selfies. That wasn’t too surprising, as I figured she tends to keep things clean. I couldn't see her chat history because she usually deletes those conversations anyway. However, I did come across a period tracker app. As I swiped through it, a realization hit me. The app allows you to track sexual activity, including whether it was protected, and even notes about orgasms and contraceptive use. It turns out she hasn’t been on birth control for quite some time, despite tracking a few months when she was. More alarmingly, she had noted down various names—some appeared consistently for weeks, while others were one-offs. Several of these encounters were marked as unprotected, and I saw entries for two threesomes, one of which was also unprotected. Unfortunately, I can only see a little over a year’s worth of data because she changed phones, so I don’t know if this behavior has been ongoing for longer. She's told me before that she had been with three guys, never had a one-night stand, and definitely never had a threesome. All of that appears to be untrue. I had my doubts before based on certain hints she dropped, but she would get upset if I ever brought it up. We've been together for three years and have a one-year-old daughter. I’m really at a loss about how to address this without revealing what I found; I fear that could end our relationship, and I don’t want that. Right now, I can’t even look her in the eye or express my feelings. How should I approach this situation and figure out the next steps? TL;DR: I discovered that my wife has significantly downplayed her sexual history.


Infidelity • 8d ago

I'm a 41-year-old woman seeking advice about my relationship with my boyfriend, who is also 41. I'm feeling uncertain and could use some guidance. Any suggestions?

**Buckle Up**—I want to begin by saying that I genuinely consider myself a kind person who gives a lot to others without expecting anything in return. I typically don’t voice my frustrations, but here we are. I (41F) have been in a relationship with a guy (41M) for the past two years. He initially swept me off my feet, claiming to be a successful business owner and a six-figure earner who could manage on his own despite his visual impairment. He assured me that he was looking for a serious relationship, something he had never found before, and my friends even vouched for his character. Having spent much of my life financially supporting my boyfriends and their families, it was refreshing to meet someone who didn't seem to need that kind of help. At the time, I was in a job I despised, although I enjoyed the work itself; it was just the people I struggled with. We started dating in January 2023, but by March, something felt off. I found out that he had been seeing other women since the very beginning. While some approach dating like a game, I see it differently. For me, dating is about assessing whether someone is marriage material; otherwise, there’s no reason for me to label them as anything more than a friend, and I don’t sleep with my friends. He was aware of my stance from the start but chose to disregard it, continuing to cheat throughout our relationship. I even caught another woman at his place once. We attempted to reconcile through counseling, but I eventually stopped when it became clear he had no intention of being faithful. I also ceased contributing to his household because, frankly, why should I? I know I should have walked away, but after receiving repeated apologies, I felt stuck. Our lack of chemistry in the bedroom and his substance abuse issues, which he claims lead him to cheat, have complicated matters. I’ve told him that our relationship can only improve if he commits himself solely to me, but I keep finding evidence that he hasn’t changed. There are so many stories that illustrate this situation. Along the way, he has criticized me for not cleaning or cooking enough, insisting I’ve not been supportive. In reality, I do help out but have scaled back because it’s hard to go all out for someone who doesn’t reciprocate. I went from being his live-in girlfriend to more of a caregiver. I usually drop my son off at school and then prepare meals or take him out to eat, recognizing that he needs assistance. I might let his dog out or take her for occasional walks, but I stopped cleaning the house entirely. So, why do I stay? Honestly, I keep searching for a reason to remain in this relationship. We generally get along and enjoy each other's company—even when we clash over political issues, it rarely affects us. We share good times and affection. Yet, I’m missing the loyalty I need from a partner. Now to the core of my dilemma: I feel used, and when I withdrew the "relationship perks," suddenly I’m deemed "not enough" for him. He’s had many women come and go, seeming to live off him, but I am not one of them and never aspire to be. I’ve been self-sufficient since I started working at 14. It’s been a year since I’ve worked, and finding a job in the current market has proven challenging. You’d expect I could lean on him for some support, but I don’t; I even asked for gas money recently—why should I pay to drive someone who cheats on me? Cheating is a significant trigger for me. Growing up watching my parents betray each other, my childhood was shadowed by the lies their infidelities created. I refuse to share space with another woman for any reason. What should I do about this? Should I even continue trying?


Infidelity • 8d ago

I'm looking for assistance or guidance.

I'm a 24-year-old married man, and like many couples, my spouse and I have faced our share of challenges. There was a time when she was unfaithful, but we managed to work through that. Lately, I've developed a close friendship with a girl at work who really matches my energy. It’s refreshing to see her, and over time, I’ve found myself developing feelings for her. She’s unaware of this, and I have no intention of acting on it. I think it’s just that being around her helps me momentarily escape my issues with my spouse. We’ve been arguing a lot recently, and spending time with this colleague seems to provide some relief. I feel guilty about my emotions, but I’m not sure how to handle this situation. I could really use some advice.


Breakups and Divorces • 8d ago

schedule conflict

My boyfriend of six months unexpectedly ended our relationship, citing our incompatible schedules as the reason. He claimed he still wanted to be with me and genuinely cared for me, but we were only able to see each other every three weeks. He felt overwhelmed by work and other commitments and believed he couldn't give me the attention and love I deserved. When he initially brought up the issue, he asked for my thoughts, but during our call, it seemed he had already made up his mind. We didn’t agree on a no-contact period, but that’s how it’s turned out in the days since. I’m trying to move on, but I had strong feelings for him. Though I’m aware I shouldn’t hold onto hope, part of me can’t help but do so.


Infidelity • 8d ago

Challenging scenario 33f

I'm a 33-year-old woman—attractive, popular, and blessed with a great body and many friends. I’ve entered a wonderful relationship with a 39-year-old man who takes care of me in every way. I really love him; he’s sweet and a fire sign. He brings me food and offers foot rubs every night when I ask, plus he pays my bills and comes home on time every evening. We’ve been together for nearly four months, but our intimacy has dwindled to about once a week, if I'm lucky. He insists everything is fine, but it used to be four or five times a week, which has prompted me to check his phone at night. We both have access to each other's devices, but in his deleted messages, I discovered he was communicating on an escort text line and asking for a quick visit. I’m heartbroken. I tried to bring it up indirectly without revealing I snooped. I asked him to talk to me if something was wrong or if he wanted to take a break, but he seemed oblivious and wanted me to clarify. I struggled to find the right words. I'm worried about breaking up, as I’m financially dependent on him and our families and lives are intertwined after three years together. How should I approach this conversation? TL;DR: I found out my boyfriend is seeking escorts, and I don’t know how to confront him.


Communication Problems • 8d ago

I sense that my thoughts and opinions aren't valued or considered.

Hello, Reddit community. I've been in a wonderful relationship with my girlfriend (f33) for over a year now, and we've shared countless happy moments together. I've never felt this kind of love before. However, there's one issue that bothers me: my girlfriend often interrupts me mid-sentence to say she already knows what I'm trying to explain, and her tone can come off as irritated. This happens even when I’m discussing simple things like my favorite movie. It feels like she views me as not very smart. I’m unsure how to address this without upsetting her or making her feel defensive, but I genuinely feel like my intellect isn’t being respected.


Dating and Starting Relationships • 8d ago

Unexpectedly Discovered a Stunning Woman While Networking on LinkedIn

I was networking on LinkedIn and came across a beautiful girl who is a student at my university and works at a consulting firm I'm interested in. I discovered that she has a boyfriend (no need to judge), and I'm curious about the best way to get to know her and see if she's open to new possibilities in her personal life. Would a coffee chat for "networking" be a good idea, or are there better strategies? I want to keep it subtle, especially since she’s in a relationship (although her boyfriend seems a bit dull). Do you have any suggestions?


Financial Issues • 8d ago

One year of being in a relationship with my boyfriend.

My boyfriend and I have a great relationship and we always communicate openly about our feelings and issues. However, I'm feeling a bit uneasy about our upcoming trip. I'm currently saving my own money, as I work as a call center agent and my salary barely covers my expenses and bills. Meanwhile, my boyfriend makes six times what I earn each month through his social media work. He knows I can’t afford the trip, yet he insists that I come along and suggested that I borrow money from him. I'm left wondering, is this normal? Shouldn't he treat me to the trip, especially since he earns so much more than I do? The cost of the ticket and other expenses is quite high. I just hope someone understands where I'm coming from.


Infidelity • 8d ago

Assistance with relationship issues :(

Hello everyone! I'm a 25-year-old woman in a relationship with a 27-year-old man. We've been together for about four years, but we've faced some challenges over the past year since moving in together. My boyfriend has a history of drug use, which genuinely worries me. Currently, his main struggle is with nicotine, and he's been trying to quit for quite a while. Lately, I’ve had some difficult moments where I acted impulsively and went through his belongings. I know this was wrong, and I did apologize after we had a long discussion about it. Unfortunately, I discovered that he hasn’t quit nicotine and has been using pouches of varying strengths, and he's also been watching pornography. This revelation really upset me, as I consider pornography to be almost equivalent to infidelity. It left me feeling undesirable and hurt. We did manage to have a two-day, constructive conversation about our issues, but I’m seeking advice on how to move forward. How can we work through this? How can I regain my confidence and sense of worth? How do I rebuild trust after experiencing dishonesty and secrecy? And how can I maintain my boundaries after setting them? I truly love him and can’t imagine my life without him – he's my bright spot on cloudy days and my guiding light in the dark. I just want to know how we can navigate this together.


Trust and Jealousy • 8d ago

(21F and 23M) I'm suspecting that my boyfriend may have been unfaithful. What steps should I take?

I'm a 21-year-old female and my boyfriend is a 23-year-old male. We've been together for a year and a half. Recently, on February 1, 2025, he turned off his location, which is unusual for him. He typically lets me know when he does this, mainly because he usually turns it off to hide the fact that he didn’t go to work from his mom. But this time, he didn’t say anything to me. Earlier that day, I called and pointed out that his location showed he was at his workplace eight hours ago, but then later, it showed he was at home. His response was just, “Oh, that’s weird,” and then he asked if I had to work. When I told him I did, he said he went to work briefly but left early. Later that night, his location was completely off, showing “no location found.” I called him again and asked if he had turned off his location, and he confirmed that he did. When I asked why, he replied, “I don’t have a reason; I just did.” This was strange since he always insists that I keep my location on and never turn mine off. During our first call, instead of simply saying he had turned off his location, he just said, “Oh, that’s weird.” The story changed when I called again; he claimed he had been home all day and didn’t go to work, which doesn’t make sense because who turns off their location when they’re at home? Does this seem suspicious? To summarize: my boyfriend turned off his location at home for no reason, which is out of character for him. He usually only does this when he’s trying to avoid his mom finding out that he skipped work. Initially, he said he was at work early but then later claimed he was home all day. Does this suggest he might be cheating?


Long-Term Relationships and Marriage • 8d ago

I (24M) am unsure how to handle my girlfriend's (24F) ongoing emotional distance.

I'm not one to typically seek advice, but I'm feeling pretty conflicted and having trouble seeing the situation clearly. I'm a 24-year-old man and have been in a relationship with my girlfriend, who is also 24, for a year. Lately, I've sensed that something's off, especially since around November. We live apart—she has a roommate— and we usually see each other once or twice a week. Our outings typically involve watching movies, going for walks, or having dinner together. This has been our routine since the beginning of our relationship. I've always found it a bit odd, as my friends and I used to spend much more time together with previous partners. After coming out of a more intense relationship, I thought a change in pace would give me some much-needed personal time. I assumed that as our relationship progressed, she'd become more open. Unfortunately, that hasn't happened, and it's increasingly bothering me. I've talked to her about it, and she cites her exhaustion after work and an unpredictable schedule as reasons for her limited availability. While I understand where she's coming from, I also believe that being adults means we need to manage our time effectively in a relationship. There's nothing especially 'wrong' with her; she's not controlling or prone to starting arguments, which is why I've tried to overlook other issues that have made me uneasy. In the earlier stages of our relationship, we were intimate almost every time we saw each other. However, in the past few months, I can count the number of times we've been intimate on one hand. I’ve hesitated to bring this up, as I don’t want her to think that my only concern is the frequency of our intimate moments. During our last meeting, the atmosphere felt strained, almost like nails on a chalkboard. Conversations seemed forced; when I shared insights from a book I was reading, she just responded with a disinterested “oh.” Although I’ve always felt our interests were somewhat different, I believed we could bridge that gap. I genuinely try to engage with the things she enjoys, but that moment hurt. Additionally, I noticed that she didn't touch me at all, while she used to be more physically affectionate. What really unsettled me was that she had just gotten lip fillers the day before and gave me a quick peck, saying it was because her lips needed to heal and she wanted to avoid complications. But then, she proceeded to vape throughout the evening. I'm feeling lost on how to proceed, especially since my friends have given me a mix of conflicting advice. I'm seeking some impartial perspectives on my situation. Thanks for taking the time to read this!


Breakups and Divorces • 8d ago

How can I move past this?

A month and a half ago, after three months together, my boyfriend suddenly told me that he no longer had any feelings for me and saw me more as a friend than a girlfriend. He even admitted that he had been pretending to be happy with me lately. He broke up with me in that moment, and just a week later, he tweeted about how happy he was and the bright future ahead of him. He mentioned wanting to date and flirt with other girls. This made me incredibly angry, so I reached out to him to express how deeply he had hurt me and told him I wished him nothing but misery. He didn’t respond directly but tweeted that people should learn to accept not being wanted and that he had succeeded in every area of his life this year, except for his love life, which he described as a "complete disaster." What do you all think? Is he being a jerk?


Dating and Starting Relationships • 8d ago

Am I overthinking, being childish, or is she simply occupied?

M20 F22 I met this girl three days ago, and everything was going well. However, things have since changed; she doesn't respond as promptly as she used to. I asked her if she wanted to grab milkshakes with me this evening, but all day I’ve been left on delivered. She responded by suggesting tomorrow instead. It just feels different since she typically replies quickly, and today that hasn’t been the case.


Breakups and Divorces • 8d ago

The husband is experiencing uncertainty.

My husband and I have been married for five months, having been together for 8.5 years. Recently, I went on a five-week vacation to visit family. Just three days before my return, he called to say he wasn't looking forward to seeing me, enjoyed his time alone, and wanted a divorce. He expressed that the thought of being with the same woman for the rest of his life frightened him, and he missed the thrill of dating. During my absence, he spent a lot of time with three single friends who often boast about their freedom, open relationships, and casual encounters. Upon my return, after a grueling 30-hour trip and feeling extremely anxious about what awaited me, he told me I was like medicine to him and that he felt much better when I was around. He claimed our relationship was fantastic and that he couldn't find anyone else with whom he had the same connection. He wrestled with choosing between the excitement of pursuing other women and remaining in a loving marriage where he feels valued. He also confessed he had only slept with five people before me and felt he had missed out on experiences. Now nearing 36, he believes he has only a few good years ahead before hitting middle age. We sought couples therapy, where the therapist noted that if his feelings of doubt predominantly arose when I was away but diminished upon my return, this could be linked to unresolved childhood traumas. He had a tumultuous upbringing with unstable marriage examples and a lack of a nurturing environment. While it seems things have returned to some semblance of normal, and we continue to discuss these issues, I feel deeply hurt and inadequate. He insists it's his struggle and that I'm amazing. He apologized for suggesting divorce and recognized he needs to confront his feelings. He often refers to himself as the "patient" in this situation. Over the past three weeks, I've struggled to feel like myself and have lost my zest for life, apart from going to the gym. I make an effort to remain upbeat around him to show that things can be okay, but I feel extremely lost. He says he's committed to therapy because he wants to work on our marriage. We're also in the process of buying a house together in four weeks. I'm seeking advice on how to cope with the overwhelming sadness and hurt. While I understand that he is grappling with his own issues, I need to find a way to move forward and set these feelings aside. Has anyone experienced something similar? Is questioning one's relationship normal? Any insights would be greatly appreciated, as I feel very stuck in my emotions. In summary: My husband is struggling with the idea of committing to the same partner for life.


Sexual Problems and Intimacy • 8d ago

My girlfriend, who is 18, seems emotionally distant after we were intimate, and I’m looking for advice on how to address this.

The phrase "emotionally muted" might sound harsh and insensitive, but I couldn't find a better way to express it succinctly, so I hope you understand. I’m an 18-year-old male, and my girlfriend, also 18, and I have been together for 11 months. This is our first relationship for both of us, and we have each other’s first experiences. For about three months (after being together for eight), we were dry humping, which started accidentally while we were making out. Recently, we decided we were ready to take the next step. We had initial conversations about it while we continued dry humping, but then we talked more intensively for about a week, which probably wasn’t enough time. Eventually, we both agreed that we were “ready,” and the day came when we went through with it. Afterward, my girlfriend expressed that she felt we should have discussed it longer. This led to her feeling hesitant about it and experiencing a sense of "emptiness" afterward. It’s affected her emotionally; her willingness to engage in conversation with me or others diminishes after half an hour to an hour. She seems to force her laughter and often questions her reasons for laughing, feeling like she "still enjoys doing things with me, but it’s muted." In her words, her emotions feel muted by about 80%, making it difficult for her to genuinely enjoy our relationship. I’ve tried to express my love and offer comfort, but she often claims she doesn’t know what’s wrong, and nothing I do seems to make her happy. She reassures me that she loves me, but I can’t help but wonder if that love has turned into mere attachment. She mentioned she doesn’t know what’s causing this and that time won’t heal it, which is incredibly tough because I feel lost (though there was a slight development two days ago). Two days ago, we began apologizing to each other for being intimate. I never intended to hurt her, but with no clear solution, I suggested we take some time apart (not a break—this isn’t something we do). I thought that stepping back might give her the space she needs to understand her feelings without my constant presence distracting her from finding the underlying truth. During our conversation, she mentioned that one possible reason for her feelings might be her sadness about not having hobbies and needing happiness outside of our relationship. She also shared that she had seen videos about boyfriends becoming emotionally distant, which made her worry about signs of that in our relationship. However, these reasons are just possibilities, and she hadn’t communicated any of this to me until now, which left me without the chance to help. As we discussed it, she grew frustrated and decided to end the conversation, asking me to stop and saying goodnight. It’s been two days since, and when I checked in, she only responded with a thumbs-up, which makes me sad because she isn’t open to talking. Additionally, she turned off her location, which adds to my concern. Does anyone have insights into what might be happening with her, similar experiences, or advice on how I can help improve this situation? I don’t want to see her as an emotional shell, as it's impacting our relationship, and I’m determined not to give up on us. **TL;DR:** Does anyone have advice on how I can support my girlfriend, who seems emotionally disconnected?


Dating and Starting Relationships • 8d ago

I'm 18 and I'm unsure if my relationship with my classmate, who is also 18, is purely platonic or if she’s interested in something more.

I'm an 18-year-old male, and I'm feeling a bit confused about my relationship with a female classmate who is 18. We often have nice conversations, but recently she's been asking me if I plan to attend the upcoming school dance. While she’s going with some friends, she also inquired about who I might want to go with, and since I don’t have many female friends (being more introverted), I didn’t have an answer. She even suggested that I could invite her to the dance. I’m not great at reading between the lines, so I’m uncertain whether she’s being friendly or if she’s hinting at wanting to go together as a couple.


Communication Problems • 9d ago

My husband [28M] and I [27F] are having difficulties with task management and communication. Is there a way to improve this?

Hello everyone, I'm seeking advice on how to manage tasks and communication within my relationship. Here's some context: I’m a 28-year-old man currently studying abroad, while my wife, who is 27, is working in Canada to support my education. She is very caring towards my family, and they adore her in return. She is also an independent individual with considerable work experience from our home country. Lately, we've been facing some challenges regarding small tasks and the sharing of advice. For instance, prior to my arrival in Canada, I reminded her several times—probably around 20—to contact her manager for a Job Experience letter. It took her two weeks to finally make that call. She has acknowledged that she tends to procrastinate. When I follow up on these tasks, she often feels overwhelmed and expresses that I’m adding too much pressure. She also points out that she doesn’t assign me tasks or offer me advice. I’m a bit perplexed about whether I should allow her to handle things at her own pace or if I should guide her decisions as we plan for our future. Ultimately, I find myself questioning the essence of our partnership when we both have the freedom to make our own decisions. What does that mean for our relationship as husband and wife?


Breakups and Divorces • 9d ago

Experiencing silence after a relationship

I understand that it's often recommended to move on after a relationship ends, but our breakup wasn't particularly negative. Despite this, my ex continues to ignore my attempts to reconnect. I was the one who decided to end things, but that choice came after many efforts to improve his communication, which left me with little option. He claims he doesn't see a reason to talk now that we’re no longer together. I might be holding onto false hope, but I genuinely wanted this relationship to succeed and my feelings for him remain strong. Any advice would be appreciated.


Breakups and Divorces • 9d ago

Why did he block me and become so indifferent so quickly?

A few Saturdays ago, my boyfriend unexpectedly broke up with me over FaceTime, and it completely devastated me. The following Wednesday, I drove to see him because we're in a long-distance relationship and I needed closure, especially since we'll be coworkers in April. I met up with him again that Saturday for our goodbyes, but I couldn't shake the impression that he was so indifferent. He kept insisting, "We need to do no contact so we can both move on," which felt especially confusing since he had called me his dream woman just at Christmas. I really can't fathom why he changed so drastically and became so cold. Then, on Monday, I learned that my childhood dog was being put down, and I was an emotional wreck. I needed support from him, so I reached out and broke our no-contact rule. When he didn’t respond, I called the next day to ask why he hadn’t even said, "I'm sorry for your loss." It was clear he didn’t care, and I got angry, telling him, “Don’t ever talk to me again,” especially since I desperately needed him during such a hard time. After that call, he blocked my number like I didn't matter at all, and it felt so easy for him to do that. I just don’t understand why or what he’s thinking.


Trust and Jealousy • 9d ago

My boyfriend (24M) frequently brings up his previous relationship.

Hey, I've been dating my boyfriend (24M) for about a month now, and I’ve noticed that during our conversations, he often references memories with his ex. I understand he was with her for two years during college, so it's natural he would have some lingering thoughts. I've also moved on from my ex (23M) after a four-year relationship that was quite toxic, but I haven’t mentioned him once. For instance, while we were at a party, my boyfriend said, “When my ex and I were in college, we knew this one guy—” which seemed unnecessary to bring up. Later that night, after sharing a few drinks, I asked him about their breakup, and he casually mentioned, “She moved for her job,” before dozing off. Even though it's been two years since they split, I can't shake the feeling that he might still have feelings for her, and I worry that I’m just a stand-in. In short: My boyfriend frequently brings up his ex, and it makes me feel like I’m just a replacement.


Long-Term Relationships and Marriage • 9d ago

Girlfriend distancing

20F, 20M. Hello, I've been in a relationship for 1.5 years, and while we've had our ups and downs, things took a turn recently. Over the past month, my girlfriend has been distancing herself from me. We live apart, and in the last three weeks, I've been organizing fewer sleepovers as I'm in the process of moving to a place where I intend to live with her. I thought she was excited about this change, but since we visited the new place about two weeks ago, she's expressed second thoughts and has been quite negative about the idea. She tends to be more pessimistic than I'm used to, which I've come to accept as part of her personality. She also experiences mood swings and often shows her affection differently from one day to the next. She self-diagnosed herself with BPD, or at least that's what her high school psychologist suggested. Today, she told me she's losing interest in being emotionally close to me. Over the past month, her texting has become sluggish, and she's fallen out of our usual routines (like good morning texts and saying "I love you"). I might be overreacting at this point. I’m just not ready to let her go; she’s one of my first serious relationships, and I always envisioned her by my side. I'm hopeful that things might improve when she spends some nights at the new place, hopefully next week. I'm looking for general advice on how someone in my situation should approach this.