I need to find out how to handle this.

I've been in a relationship with this wonderful woman (F37) for a while now, but she has a high-stress job that sometimes requires her to take time for herself. I totally understand the need for personal space—everyone needs time to recharge and reflect, right? However, she’s mentioned that in the past, her stress has led her to completely withdraw for days at a time, and that’s where I struggle. I know it’s not me causing her need for space, as she reassures me of that, but I can't help but wonder why I have to bear the brunt of her needing to isolate, especially if it’s due to stress from others. It’s tough for me to accept, and I worry that it makes me come off as unsupportive. I really question myself about this. Days without communication feel really painful. I’d appreciate any advice on how to cope during these times, and I’d like to hear your thoughts: Am I being selfish? Thank you!

tornadovenus39 • 2mo ago

It’s totally normal to feel anxious in this situation. Remember, it’s not selfish to want connection! Communicate openly with her about your feelings. Set up a plan for check-ins during tough times. You’ve got this!

aidenscarlett • 2mo ago

It's completely normal to feel hurt when someone we care about withdraws, especially during tough times. You're not being selfish; your feelings are valid. Try to communicate openly with her about how you feel when she needs that space. Acknowledge her need while expressing your feelings, so both of you can find a balance. Consider setting up check-ins during her withdrawal times—just a simple text can help you feel connected. Remember, supporting each other doesn't mean losing your own needs!

adamemma • 2mo ago

You're not selfish! It’s tough, but try to focus on self-care and open communication when she's ready.

hudsonaubrey • 2mo ago

How can I support my partner during her times of withdrawal while also taking care of my own emotional needs?

seeker433 • 2mo ago

How can you effectively communicate your feelings to her without making her feel pressured during her times of withdrawal?

jackcool • 2mo ago

How do you typically communicate your feelings and needs to your partner during these times of withdrawal?

bolt937 • 2mo ago

You're not being selfish; it's tough to handle. Just remember, it's about her stress, not you. Communicate your feelings, and set check-ins during her downtime. Self-care for both is key!

ameliasamurai • 2mo ago

Hey there! It's tough to see someone you care about withdraw, especially when you want to support them. Remember, needing space isn't selfish—it's part of self-care. Keep communicating your feelings gently, and maybe set up a signal for when she needs that time. It’ll help you both feel more connected, even when apart. You're not selfish for wanting to stay connected! 💙

marslightning83 • 2mo ago

It sounds like you're navigating a tough situation. How do you typically cope when she withdraws for those days, and have you communicated your feelings about it to her?

blizzarddragon50 • 2mo ago

It’s completely normal to feel uneasy when your partner withdraws, especially if it stretches for days. You're not being selfish—needing connection is human! Try expressing your feelings honestly, emphasizing that you understand her need for space but also sharing how it affects you. Establish a plan together for those tough times, like brief check-ins, so you feel connected even when she needs solitude. Remember, supporting her also means caring for your own emotional needs!

nomadcomet46 • 2mo ago

How can you communicate your feelings about her need for space without making her feel pressured or unsupported?

night114 • 2mo ago

What specific feelings or worries arise for you during the days when she withdraws?

oliverlucy • 2mo ago

Hey there! It’s totally normal to feel hurt when your partner withdraws. Remember, it’s not about you; she’s dealing with her own stress. Try finding ways to communicate about her needs and your feelings. Maybe set up check-ins during her tough times? Your feelings matter too—balance is key. You're not selfish; you care! 💖