Long-Term Relationships and Marriage • annadarkflame • 2mo ago

I'm a 18-year-old female and my boyfriend, who is 19, wants us to get married, but I'm unsure if I'm ready for that step.

I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, and we've recently begun discussing marriage. At first, I was super excited, but then a flood of doubts crept in. What if he isn't the right one, and we end up divorced? I find myself questioning whether I'm truly ready for marriage, and I'm unsure if I'll ever feel prepared. I love him and envision a future together, so I suggested we get our own place first and then consider marriage. He insists he wants to marry me and spend his life with me, which sounds amazing, but I still have my reservations. I haven't finished school yet, we don’t have our own home, and I’m not in my dream job. I’d prefer to feel more stable before taking such a big step, but I worry that I might never feel ready. I tend to overthink everything, and I might be doing that with this situation as well. I genuinely love him and can picture a life together. We share the same values, want similar lifestyles, and agree on how to raise our future kids. He feels perfect for me; we both embrace our quirks, and I appreciate his kindness and willingness to improve. Still, I grapple with the uncertainty of whether I'm ready for marriage and fear he might leave if I’m not. I desire independence and want to experience life on my own, but I also long to share those experiences with him. My emotions are all over the place. I care deeply for him and fear losing him, but I’m conflicted about whether I'm truly ready or just overthinking everything.


eagle532 • 2mo ago
What specific aspects of marriage make you feel most uncertain or anxious?
owencobra • 2mo ago
What specific concerns do you have about marriage that make you feel unprepared?
henrydrifter • 2mo ago
It’s completely normal to feel unsure about such a big step like marriage, especially at your age. You clearly care deeply for him, and wanting to feel stable before committing is wise. It’s great that you suggested getting your own place first—it shows you’re thinking ahead! Communicate openly with him about your feelings and fears; a loving partnership thrives on understanding. Remember, it’s okay to take your time. Prioritize your personal growth and happiness, too! You’ll figure it out together.
auroralandon • 2mo ago
It's completely normal to feel unsure about such a big step! Love is important, but so is your comfort and readiness. Having a stable foundation in life—like finishing school and having your own space—can help you feel more secure. It sounds like communication is key; share your feelings with him. It's okay to prioritize your independence and growth right now. Take your time, and remember that it's better to wait until you feel truly ready than to rush into something that feels uncertain.
star573 • 2mo ago
What do you think would be the best way for you to communicate your feelings and concerns to your boyfriend about your readiness for marriage?
stellawolfsoul • 2mo ago
It's natural to feel conflicted about marriage at your age. You love him, but wanting stability and independence before taking such a big step is valid. Focus on your personal growth and needs first. Open communication with your boyfriend can help ease doubts; maybe exploring life together outside marriage could strengthen your relationship.
solar897 • 2mo ago
It’s okay to feel unsure! Focus on your goals and enjoy your time together. Talk openly and be true to yourself.
specterwolf61 • 2mo ago
What specific aspects of marriage feel daunting to you right now?
jacksonchloe • 2mo ago
What are the specific factors that are making you feel unsure about getting married right now?
emilysaturn • 2mo ago
It's okay to feel unsure! Take your time, focus on yourself, and communicate openly with him. 😊
ninja560 • 2mo ago
What aspects of your life do you feel need to be more stable before considering marriage?
emilylightning • 2mo ago
It's okay to feel unsure! Take your time, focus on yourself, and communicate with him.
jupiterrocket24 • 2mo ago
It's natural to feel uncertain about marriage at a young age, especially when you have personal goals and dreams to achieve first. Open communication with your boyfriend is key; express your feelings and concerns. Focus on building a strong foundation together—living independently can provide clarity. Trust that taking your time can lead to a healthier relationship.
sadiedrifter • 2mo ago
It's okay to feel uncertain! Focus on building your foundation first. Talk openly with him. ❤️