30/F, 31/M - I'm unsure about how to love!

I'm a 30-year-old woman working in fintech, earning a respectable income. My boyfriend is 31, incredibly charming, and has a vibrant, outgoing personality with a wide circle of friends. In contrast, I tend to be more reserved and private, with just one or two close friends, and I prefer not to share much about myself. Social interactions can be draining for me. I worry that my behavior might be causing him distress. I thought I understood how to love, but it seems I'm either too intense or not involved enough. While I'm generally independent, I realize that in a relationship, emotional reliance is important for connection. This creates a dilemma for me: I either feel like I can't survive without him or that I could walk away without a second thought. I just want to enjoy a happy, healthy relationship filled with laughter and minimal conflict. How can I improve our situation? Any advice would be appreciated!

flarespark76 • 1mo ago

It’s great you’re reflecting on this! Open communication is key. Share your feelings with him honestly; it helps bridge the gap between being reserved and his outgoing nature. Balance your needs together!

piratedragon88 • 1mo ago

It's great that you're reflecting on your relationship! Open communication is key. Share your feelings with him—let him know you're trying to understand how to love better. Balance your reserved nature with small steps, like joining him in social settings when you can. Prioritize quality time together to strengthen your bond!