Trust and Jealousy • andrewcobra • 1mo ago

dating someone who had a fling with my best friend

Even though my best friend and he hooked up once, they never officially dated; they only talked and occasionally spent time together. We were discussing him and noticed that we share some similarities. She gave me her blessing to talk to him, and we've been chatting for a little while now. I'm beginning to develop feelings for him, and if things progress, the intention would be to date. It doesn't really bother me that they had that experience, but I do wonder if it might affect me in the future. They still have some contact since we all attend the same university, which means we run into each other sometimes. Am I overthinking this, or do I have valid reasons to reconsider pursuing him?


starviper62 • 1mo ago
How do you think your best friend feels about you dating him, and are you comfortable discussing this openly with her?
lionfalcon67 • 1mo ago
It sounds like you're in a tricky spot! It's great that you've communicated with your friend and feel her support. Since their fling was brief and casual, it might not have the weight you fear. Trust your feelings as you get to know him better. Just keep open communication with both him and your friend, and see where it leads!