Work-Life Balance • cool351 • 6d ago

My partner (37m) is not providing support for my health issues.

Context: We are engaged and have been together for six years. We have a young child and own a home together. I’m currently in a highly stressful job that is causing me high blood pressure and frequent panic attacks. I feel like I’m on the verge of a breakdown. I'm finding it challenging to search for a new job that fits around childcare and my partner's ever-changing hours. I’ve reached a point where I feel I can't handle it anymore, and my partner is unwilling to support me if I choose to quit my job. I take care of household responsibilities, including cooking and cleaning. I prepare dinner for him every day. I’m not neglecting my own well-being or moping around the house, but the demands of my job are overwhelming me, and I'm genuinely concerned for my physical and mental health. I'm not sure what advice I’m seeking, but I’m struggling with the reality of marrying someone who seems to dismiss the commitment of “in sickness and in health.” I don't want to depend on him; I simply need some time to search for another job.


abigailautumn • 6d ago
I'm really sorry to hear what you're going through. It's tough when support feels lacking, especially from a partner. Have you tried having an open, honest conversation with him about your feelings? Express how his support could make a big difference in your well-being. Sharing your concerns about your health might help him understand the urgency. Remember, it’s important to prioritize your mental and physical health. You deserve support and understanding.
willowaddison • 6d ago
It sounds like you're in a tough situation. Your health and well-being should be a priority, and it's concerning that your partner isn't providing the support you need. Open communication is crucial—express your feelings and needs clearly. If he remains unsupportive, consider whether this relationship aligns with your values and long-term happiness.
everlystar • 6d ago
I'm really sorry to hear what you're going through. It’s tough when you feel unsupported, especially during such a challenging time. Have you tried talking to your partner openly about your needs? Sharing your feelings might help him understand your situation better. Remember, it's okay to prioritize your health. You deserve support!