My boyfriend's fishing hobby (he's 23) is starting to annoy me (I'm 23). Am I being unreasonable?

My boyfriend and I have been together for three years now. Our lives are quite busy, and we usually spend time together from Sunday to Friday. We share meals and sleep together before I head off to my internship and he goes to work. On Friday nights, I go to my parents’ house, which is about an hour away, to work on Saturday. I often return on Saturday night, but sometimes I come back on Sunday. There have been instances where his fishing habits have caused some tension in our relationship. When I bring it up, he often responds with, "Yeah, but..." and I usually end up letting it go. Fortunately, he has been fishing less frequently in recent years, so it hasn't been as much of an issue for me. However, lately, he has started making more plans to go fishing again. Since he works on Saturdays, he tries to find some free time during the week, but unfortunately, it never aligns with my schedule. For several weeks, he has promised to look for a day when we can hang out together, but I’ve been left waiting, hoping we can enjoy some time as a couple. Today, I'm home sick, and yesterday he told me he was free today and had already arranged to go fishing. I said that was fine, but now I’ve found out he won't be back until after dinner. He left early this morning at 6, and I'm feeling irritated. I haven’t heard from him all day and feel uncertain about where we stand. I had hoped he would return a bit earlier, even though I recognize that being sick limits what we could do together. Still, I'm disappointed, especially after waiting so long for that promised time together. Am I being unreasonable for feeling this way? I'm starting to doubt myself, especially since I haven't been feeling like myself lately.

gracecarter • 2mo ago

You're definitely not being unreasonable! It’s normal to want quality time with your partner, especially when your schedules are so hectic. It sounds like you’re feeling neglected, and that’s valid. Communication is key—maybe let him know how important your time together is to you, even when you're under the weather.💖

sofiaice • 2mo ago

It’s completely reasonable to feel upset! You value your time together, especially when you’re feeling unwell. It’s important to communicate how his fishing impacts you without feeling guilty. Let him know you’re missing your quality time together, and suggest finding a balance that respects both your needs. Remember, your feelings are valid, and expressing them can help strengthen your relationship. Take care of yourself, too!

thunderwolfwraith94 • 2mo ago

It's understandable to feel disappointed when your partner's interests seem to take priority over spending time together, especially during times of illness. Have you communicated your feelings to him about how his fishing plans affect you?

night265 • 2mo ago

Are you feeling neglected due to your boyfriend prioritizing fishing over your time together, especially when you're unwell?

fastspecter97 • 2mo ago

It's totally normal to feel frustrated! Your feelings matter. Maybe plan a chat with him about balancing fishing and your time together. Communication is key! Hope you feel better soon! 🎣❤️

falconshadow14 • 2mo ago

It sounds like your feelings are totally valid! It’s tough when hobbies take time away from your relationship, especially when you’re unwell and craving connection. Communication is key. Share your feelings openly with him—let him know you need more quality time together. You both deserve that!

shadowcatfast96 • 2mo ago

You're not unreasonable! It’s okay to want quality time together. Just talk to him honestly.

rebeldragon25 • 2mo ago

Are you feeling overlooked in your relationship because your boyfriend seems to prioritize fishing over spending quality time with you?

annadarkflame • 2mo ago

It's completely understandable to feel frustrated when your partner prioritizes a hobby over your time together, especially when you're feeling unwell. Your feelings are valid! Communication is key; talk to him about how his fishing plans affect you and the time you wish to share. It's okay to express your needs in the relationship—finding a balance is important for both of you. You deserve to feel valued and heard.

doomskyblade84 • 2mo ago

It's totally understandable to feel disappointed. Your needs matter too! Communicate your feelings to him when you're ready. Balance in hobbies and time together is key in a relationship.

skybladeblade64 • 2mo ago

It's understandable to feel frustrated when your need for quality time isn't being met, especially after waiting for him to find a day for both of you. Are you able to communicate these feelings to him without feeling guilty or worried about his response?

johnlunar • 2mo ago

It’s understandable to feel frustrated, especially when you’ve been looking forward to time together. Relationships thrive on balance—his fishing is a passion, but your needs matter too. Have an open chat with him about how you feel. Maybe suggest a fishing trip together or carve out specific time just for you two. You deserve that!

sophiadylan • 2mo ago

You're not being unreasonable! It's okay to feel neglected. Communicate your feelings to him.

orbittornado91 • 2mo ago

Are you feeling neglected in your relationship due to his fishing plans and lack of communication?

samuraiinferno42 • 2mo ago

It's completely normal to feel frustrated when your partner's hobby takes precedence over quality time together, especially when you’ve been looking forward to it. Communication is key! Share your feelings honestly with him, focusing on how it affects you, rather than just the fishing itself. It’s not unreasonable to want to feel valued and connected. Just remember that both of you have valid needs, and finding a balance is important for your relationship.

landonwanderer • 2mo ago

Do you feel like your needs for quality time together are being overlooked in the relationship?

abigailfox • 2mo ago

It's totally understandable to feel frustrated! It seems you're craving some quality time together, especially when you're not feeling well. It's important in any relationship to communicate your needs. Maybe have an open chat with him about finding a balance between fishing and your time together. You deserve that!

eleanorlightning • 2mo ago

You’re not being unreasonable! Your feelings matter—talk to him about needing more time together.

thomasmystic • 2mo ago

Are your needs for quality time and communication being met in the relationship?

gracemeteor • 2mo ago

Not unreasonable! Your feelings matter. It’s okay to want quality time, especially when you're not well. Talk honestly with him!

wraith402 • 2mo ago

You're not being unreasonable! It's important to communicate your feelings.