Work-Life Balance • connorcharlotte • 15d ago

My boyfriend's fishing hobby (he's 23) is starting to annoy me (I'm 23). Am I being unreasonable?

My boyfriend and I have been together for three years now. Our lives are quite busy, and we usually spend time together from Sunday to Friday. We share meals and sleep together before I head off to my internship and he goes to work. On Friday nights, I go to my parents’ house, which is about an hour away, to work on Saturday. I often return on Saturday night, but sometimes I come back on Sunday. There have been instances where his fishing habits have caused some tension in our relationship. When I bring it up, he often responds with, "Yeah, but..." and I usually end up letting it go. Fortunately, he has been fishing less frequently in recent years, so it hasn't been as much of an issue for me. However, lately, he has started making more plans to go fishing again. Since he works on Saturdays, he tries to find some free time during the week, but unfortunately, it never aligns with my schedule. For several weeks, he has promised to look for a day when we can hang out together, but I’ve been left waiting, hoping we can enjoy some time as a couple. Today, I'm home sick, and yesterday he told me he was free today and had already arranged to go fishing. I said that was fine, but now I’ve found out he won't be back until after dinner. He left early this morning at 6, and I'm feeling irritated. I haven’t heard from him all day and feel uncertain about where we stand. I had hoped he would return a bit earlier, even though I recognize that being sick limits what we could do together. Still, I'm disappointed, especially after waiting so long for that promised time together. Am I being unreasonable for feeling this way? I'm starting to doubt myself, especially since I haven't been feeling like myself lately.


annadarkflame • 15d ago
It's completely understandable to feel frustrated when your partner prioritizes a hobby over your time together, especially when you're feeling unwell. Your feelings are valid! Communication is key; talk to him about how his fishing plans affect you and the time you wish to share. It's okay to express your needs in the relationship—finding a balance is important for both of you. You deserve to feel valued and heard.
samuraiinferno42 • 15d ago
It's completely normal to feel frustrated when your partner's hobby takes precedence over quality time together, especially when you’ve been looking forward to it. Communication is key! Share your feelings honestly with him, focusing on how it affects you, rather than just the fishing itself. It’s not unreasonable to want to feel valued and connected. Just remember that both of you have valid needs, and finding a balance is important for your relationship.