fostering a harmonious relationship

I’m a 27-year-old man, and my girlfriend, who is 26, and I have been together for approximately five years, cohabitating for three of those years. About a year into our relationship, I began pursuing my bachelor’s degree while she continued to work full-time. Our schedules rarely matched up—I’d wake up early for classes, and she'd leave for work around 1:30 PM and return around 11 PM. Occasionally, we’d have an hour or two together before her shift, but for the most part, I’ve been managing shared household responsibilities—like cooking, cleaning, and doing laundry—on my own during the weekdays. Over time, I’ve felt the need to frequently remind her about shared tasks for them to be completed. While I recognize that she’s busy with work, it seems her job takes priority over everything else, including our relationship. For instance, she often rushes in the morning, leaving dishes unwashed and barely making time before heading out. When she comes home, she usually showers and relaxes on the couch watching TV, leading us to often go to bed at different times since I need to get up early. Now that I’ve completed my bachelor’s degree and am pursuing a master’s while working part-time, she continues with her full-time job under the same schedule. Recently, she expressed an interest in studying too, and I fully support her decision. She plans to apply to university in a few months, and I hope this will help us find more balance in our lives. However, I’m worried about how we’ll handle our relationship and responsibilities when she begins her studies. I’m finding it challenging to manage our current dynamics, and I have concerns about how we’ll cope if we decide to start a family in the future. I don’t want to criticize her work ethic or dedication, but I do believe there’s a disconnect in how we share our responsibilities and prioritize our relationship. I would appreciate any advice on how to discuss this situation constructively. How can we collaborate to establish a more balanced dynamic, especially as she transitions into her studies? Are there strategies or discussions that have proven effective for others in similar circumstances? **TL;DR:** My girlfriend (26F) and I (27M) have been together for 5 years, living together for 3. Our differing schedules complicate things—I’m studying and working part-time while she works full-time with late hours. I manage most household responsibilities on my own during the week, and I often have to remind her to contribute. Her job appears to be her primary focus, which leaves little time for our relationship. She plans to start studying soon, and while I hope this will bring more balance, I’m concerned about managing responsibilities and our relationship moving forward, particularly if we have kids. Seeking advice on creating a more balanced dynamic.