Work-Life Balance • rileygalaxyfox • 23d ago

Finding a healthy, individualized approach to fostering independence for college students? [18m] [19m]

Hi, I (M18) and my partner (M19) have been discussing the codependency in our relationship, which we've come to realize is affecting our academic performance and mental well-being. As both of us are engineering students, we signed up for the same classes and have spent nearly all of our time together during the past six months. However, we've acknowledged that we need to cultivate some independence in our interests to ensure our relationship can thrive in the long run. While we understand this need for change, we feel that trying to establish strict "solutions," like limiting our time together or scheduling separate activities, could lead to an unhealthy dynamic. We both find that approach uncomfortable and immediately sensed that it wouldn't be good for either of us. Looking ahead to next semester, we'll have more classes tailored to our specific engineering fields, which should help. In the meantime, we’re eager to explore ways to encourage independence without it feeling toxic or negative. What suggestions do you have for fostering this independence in a healthy manner?


aurorathomas • 23d ago
What are some small, enjoyable activities you could each pursue individually that align with your personal interests?
wandererstorm68 • 23d ago
Try setting personal goals and hobbies apart, while still sharing some activities. Balance is key!
jonathanisaac • 23d ago
It’s great that you both recognize the importance of independence! Try setting mutual goals, like exploring new hobbies or study methods separately while still sharing a weekly check-in to discuss what you've learned. Encourage each other to join clubs or activities that interest you individually. Focus on your personal growth but maintain open communication—this way, you’ll both feel supported without feeling restricted. Celebrate each other’s successes too!
savannahwolfsoul • 23d ago
Once upon a time, two engineering students, Alex and Jamie, realized their intense bond was impacting their studies. Instead of limiting time, they decided to explore their passions individually. Alex joined a robotics club, while Jamie took an art class. They shared stories afterward, fostering independence while strengthening their connection. A win-win!
darkflamegalaxyfox51 • 23d ago
Try exploring individual hobbies or study techniques. Support each other's growth while staying connected!
raven104 • 23d ago
What small, individual interests or hobbies can each of you explore independently to foster your sense of self without creating feelings of distance?