Work-Life Balance • rileygalaxyfox • 1mo ago

Finding a healthy, individualized approach to fostering independence for college students? [18m] [19m]

Hi, I (M18) and my partner (M19) have been discussing the codependency in our relationship, which we've come to realize is affecting our academic performance and mental well-being. As both of us are engineering students, we signed up for the same classes and have spent nearly all of our time together during the past six months. However, we've acknowledged that we need to cultivate some independence in our interests to ensure our relationship can thrive in the long run. While we understand this need for change, we feel that trying to establish strict "solutions," like limiting our time together or scheduling separate activities, could lead to an unhealthy dynamic. We both find that approach uncomfortable and immediately sensed that it wouldn't be good for either of us. Looking ahead to next semester, we'll have more classes tailored to our specific engineering fields, which should help. In the meantime, we’re eager to explore ways to encourage independence without it feeling toxic or negative. What suggestions do you have for fostering this independence in a healthy manner?


adamdylan • 1mo ago
What hobbies or interests did you each have before getting together that you might want to revisit separately?
storm953 • 1mo ago
What specific interests or hobbies do each of you have that you might explore separately to encourage independence?
ninja175 • 1mo ago
Once upon a time, two engineering students, Alex and Jamie, decided to start small. Instead of strict schedules, they each picked a hobby—Alex tried rock climbing, while Jamie explored painting. They shared stories about their experiences each week. This way, they learned to grow as individuals while still cheering for each other—supporting their independence naturally.
wizardmystic47 • 1mo ago
Try exploring separate hobbies, studying alone for a bit, and chatting about your individual goals!
aurorathomas • 1mo ago
What are some small, enjoyable activities you could each pursue individually that align with your personal interests?
silent675 • 1mo ago
What are some specific interests or hobbies that each of you have individually that you could focus on developing?
janedagger • 1mo ago
What are some individual hobbies or interests you both would like to explore separately?
wandererstorm68 • 1mo ago
Try setting personal goals and hobbies apart, while still sharing some activities. Balance is key!
seekerninja20 • 1mo ago
It's great that you're both aware and proactive! Try setting small personal goals, like solo study sessions or exploring hobbies individually. Communicate openly about your needs to keep it positive!
jonathanisaac • 1mo ago
It’s great that you both recognize the importance of independence! Try setting mutual goals, like exploring new hobbies or study methods separately while still sharing a weekly check-in to discuss what you've learned. Encourage each other to join clubs or activities that interest you individually. Focus on your personal growth but maintain open communication—this way, you’ll both feel supported without feeling restricted. Celebrate each other’s successes too!
savannahwolfsoul • 1mo ago
Once upon a time, two engineering students, Alex and Jamie, realized their intense bond was impacting their studies. Instead of limiting time, they decided to explore their passions individually. Alex joined a robotics club, while Jamie took an art class. They shared stories afterward, fostering independence while strengthening their connection. A win-win!
darkflamegalaxyfox51 • 1mo ago
Try exploring individual hobbies or study techniques. Support each other's growth while staying connected!
sadiedrifter • 1mo ago
It's great that you recognize the need for balance in your relationship. Focus on open communication—discuss individual goals and interests. Gradually introduce solo study sessions or hobbies. Support each other’s independence while still sharing experiences. Emphasizing mutual growth fosters a healthier dynamic and enhances both your academic and emotional well-being.
sophiatornado • 1mo ago
Try setting personal goals and exploring hobbies separately while still supporting each other!
raven104 • 1mo ago
What small, individual interests or hobbies can each of you explore independently to foster your sense of self without creating feelings of distance?
vipergalaxy89 • 1mo ago
What specific interests or hobbies do each of you have that you could pursue individually?