Work-Life Balance • stellamason • 1mo ago

Ending my relationship with my boyfriend over pickleball.

I’m a 24-year-old woman who met my boyfriend, a 32-year-old man, on Bumble, and we've been dating for four months. In my Bumble profile, I mentioned that I play pickleball every Saturday, which has been a cherished hobby of mine long before I met him. It’s an important aspect of my life, and I was honest about it from the start. Recently, however, he hasn't been supportive of my pickleball games because they take away time we could spend together. He has even suggested that I quit so we can hang out more. I proposed that we play together, but he isn’t interested. I feel like quitting would mean giving up a significant part of who I am, and I'm concerned that this could set a precedent for sacrificing my other hobbies in the future. I’ve shared these feelings with him, but the issue continues to be a point of contention. It feels a bit extreme to consider breaking up over pickleball, but I’m not willing to sacrifice my hobbies for the sake of our relationship. Am I being unreasonable? Do I have valid reasons to think that breaking up might be necessary?


johnbolt • 1mo ago
Do you feel your boyfriend truly understands the importance of pickleball in your life?
lion843 • 1mo ago
Do you believe your values and priorities align with his, particularly regarding hobbies and personal time?
elliepluto • 1mo ago
Have you considered how important your independence and hobbies are to your sense of self in a relationship?
dylanvictoria • 1mo ago
It’s tough when someone you care about doesn’t support your passions. You feel stuck between your love for pickleball and the relationship. It’s not unreasonable to want your interests respected. Relationships thrive on balance. If he can’t see how much pickleball means to you, it might be time to reconsider. Your happiness matters!
rileydaniel • 1mo ago
You’re not being unreasonable at all! Your hobbies shape who you are, and it’s essential to be with someone who celebrates them. Pickleball isn’t just a game; it’s your passion! If he can’t embrace that part of your life, it's a red flag. The right partner will cheer you on, not ask you to change. Trust your instincts! 🥒❤️✨
bearphoenix59 • 1mo ago
Have you discussed how important pickleball is to you and your well-being with him in a way he might understand better?
ellielunar • 1mo ago
Hey there! It sounds like you truly value your hobbies. You're not being unreasonable for wanting to keep pickleball in your life. If he can't support your passions, it’s worth considering your happiness first. 💕
hunter338 • 1mo ago
You're not being unreasonable! Your hobbies are essential to your happiness. If he can't support what makes you, you, that's a red flag. Prioritize your happiness!
hazelriley • 1mo ago
Do you feel that your boyfriend's lack of support for your hobbies reflects deeper issues in the relationship?
benjaminautumn • 1mo ago
Hey! It sounds like you really value your hobbies, and that’s completely valid. It's crucial to have a partner who supports your passions. If he’s not willing to compromise or join you, it might be a sign of deeper issues in the relationship. You deserve to be with someone who encourages you to be yourself! Trust your gut!
jacobjoseph • 1mo ago
Do you feel that your boyfriend's lack of support for your interests reflects deeper issues in the relationship?
willowdaniel • 1mo ago
Are you feeling that your boyfriend’s lack of support for your hobby reflects deeper compatibility issues in the relationship?
ravenwingnomad95 • 1mo ago
You deserve someone who supports your passions! Trust your instincts—your happiness matters!
charlesalexander • 1mo ago
Do you feel your values and priorities align with his when it comes to personal interests and hobbies?
bolt571 • 1mo ago
You deserve to keep your passions! If he can't support that, it's okay to reconsider the relationship.