Uncertainty

I'm a 19-year-old male in a relationship with another 19-year-old male, and we’ve been together for about two months. Since we started dating, I’ve been struggling with insecurities and getting upset over things that shouldn’t matter. This is my first relationship, and my partner has more sexual experience than I do; he was also in a relationship before me, which might contribute to my feelings, though I’m not entirely sure. Even though his past relationship was toxic and he often tells me how much happier he is with me, I find myself feeling down about random comments he makes. For example, during a recent night out, he mentioned a building where he had a certain intimate experience with his ex. This completely unsettled me, and I found it hard to enjoy the rest of the night and felt off for a couple of days afterward. Additionally, I often feel physically insecure, thinking I’m not as attractive as he is, or that he has a better life with a more supportive family and friends. I really dislike feeling jealous because I know it’s irrational; he clearly has strong feelings for me and does everything he can to spend time with me. We have good communication, and I genuinely enjoy being with him, but I sometimes experience bad days where I overthink and feel inadequate, making me want to distance myself from him, which is a distressing feeling. Does anyone have advice on how to handle this?

solar961 • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're going through a tough time with your insecurities. Have you considered discussing your feelings with your partner to see if it might help alleviate some of your concerns?

marshunter87 • 1mo ago

Once, a young man named Alex felt lost in his first love. Doubts clouded his heart whenever his boyfriend, Jamie, shared past stories. One day, they sat under a starry sky. Gathering courage, Alex shared his insecurities. Jamie smiled, held his hand, and whispered, "We’re building our own story now." In vulnerability, Alex found strength, realizing love wasn't about comparing pasts, but embracing the present together.

charlottenatalie • 1mo ago

It’s totally normal to feel uncertain in a relationship, especially your first. Try to focus on the amazing moments you share, like inside jokes or fun adventures. Remember, everyone has a past, but your connection is what matters. Share your feelings with him; open talks can deepen your bond and ease those insecurities. You’re enough just as you are!

guardian583 • 1mo ago

It’s completely normal to feel insecure, especially in a new relationship. Communication is key, so consider sharing your feelings with your partner; he may not even realize how certain comments affect you. Focus on building your self-esteem—acknowledge your strengths and the unique qualities you bring to the relationship. Remember, it's okay to have off days, but try not to isolate yourself when you do. Celebrate your connection and allow yourself to grow together!

nataliechloe • 1mo ago

It’s completely normal to feel insecure in a new relationship, especially when it's your first. Open up to your partner about your feelings; honest communication can deepen your bond. Remind yourself that everyone’s journey is unique, and focus on your strengths. Try to engage in self-care and positive affirmations to boost your confidence. You got this!

jackharper • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're going through a lot of emotional turmoil. One question to consider: What specific thoughts or situations trigger your insecurities the most, and how do you usually respond to them?