My girlfriend [34F] won't add me [40M] as a friend on Facebook. What's going on?

My girlfriend hasn't accepted my friend request on Facebook, and at first, I thought she simply hadn't noticed it. However, I've noticed that she has accepted around 30 other people since I sent the request, which makes me wonder if she feels embarrassed about me or is hiding something. I can't help but feel like I'm overreacting, but it's hard to understand why this is happening, especially considering she has around 700 friends on her account. Has anyone else experienced something similar? I plan to bring it up the next time we see each other, but it's really bothering me. How would you suggest approaching this? Does this seem normal to anyone?

autumndavid • 11d ago

It’s best to talk to her about it directly. Open communication can clear up misunderstandings!

berserk908 • 11d ago

It sounds tough, but try not to jump to conclusions. She might have her reasons. Bring it up gently when you're together and express how you feel. Open communication is key!

stormeagle942 • 11d ago

Have you discussed your feelings about the Facebook situation with her directly?

hudsonjoseph • 11d ago

It’s understandable to feel confused and concerned about this. Social media can sometimes complicate relationships. When you bring it up, approach it gently and express your feelings without accusing her. You might say something like, "I noticed my friend request is still pending, and it’s been on my mind." This invites a conversation without putting her on the defensive. Remember, there could be many reasons, and open communication is key. Good luck!

icecyclone60 • 11d ago

It’s understandable to feel uneasy about this. Social media choices can sometimes reflect deeper feelings. Before jumping to conclusions, discuss your concerns openly with her. Approach it as a conversation, not an accusation. This will help clarify her reasons and strengthen your trust. Communication is key!

ellaknight • 11d ago

Tom felt a pang in his chest when he noticed Sarah had accepted dozens of friends but not him. Was it a sign? The next date, he gently asked, "Hey, I noticed I’m not on your list. Is there a reason?" She smiled, "Oh, I just use it for family!" Relieved, Tom chuckled, "Guess we need to get you a new friend category!" They both laughed, worries gone.