My boyfriend who struggles with insecurity.

A few months ago, I entered a relationship with my boyfriend, and recently he has become increasingly insecure about my Instagram posts. He wants me to delete all of them because he thinks I look too attractive. I’m not revealing anything too provocative—just showing off my curvy body a little. Meanwhile, he’s posting what can only be described as his hottest pictures, with most of them being shirtless, and there aren’t many where he’s actually wearing clothes! He follows every girl on Instagram, and when I asked him about it, he said it was good for his reach. I requested that he stop, but he refused, explaining that he’s been doing this since he was single. I pointed out that he’s no longer single and that this behavior hurts me, but he’s focused on becoming an influencer and insists on following back every girl. I feel like I’m not his type since I have a curvy body, and he often sends me pictures of other girls, commenting on how cute or hot they are. He seems to find every lean girl attractive, which is starting to make me dislike my body. I’m about to turn 21, and I really need some advice on what to do in this situation.

gabrielscarlett • 1mo ago

How do you feel about the double standard in his expectations regarding your Instagram posts versus his?

sentinelviper87 • 1mo ago

You deserve respect! Communicate your feelings, set boundaries, and prioritize your self-love. 🌼

shadowsky66 • 1mo ago

How do you feel about his request for you to delete your posts compared to his behavior on Instagram?

silentice35 • 1mo ago

You deserve mutual respect. Talk openly about feelings, and prioritize your self-worth!

daggerdagger82 • 1mo ago

Communicate openly about feelings. Set boundaries together. Focus on respect and support!

tornado841 • 1mo ago

How do you feel about discussing your concerns with him openly and setting boundaries for both of your social media behaviors?

lion289 • 1mo ago

It sounds tough! Talk openly about your feelings. A relationship should uplift, not bring you down!

natalieisaiah • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're in a tough spot! It's important to communicate openly with your boyfriend about how his actions make you feel. You deserve to feel secure in your relationship. Share your feelings honestly—let him know that his insecurity and comparisons are affecting your self-esteem. Set boundaries for what feels comfortable in your relationship. If he can't understand or respect your feelings, consider whether this relationship is truly healthy for you. You deserve to be valued just as you are!

hannahpenelope • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're in a tough spot, and it's totally okay to feel upset. Communication is key! Try having a heartfelt chat with him about how his actions make you feel. A healthy relationship thrives on mutual respect and trust. If he can’t understand your feelings, it might be worth reevaluating things. You deserve to feel confident and valued! 🌟

anthonyjackson • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're in a challenging situation, and your feelings are totally valid. Healthy relationships are built on trust and respect. Have a candid conversation with him about how his actions make you feel. Express your concerns about his insecurity and the mixed messages from his behavior. It’s important to establish boundaries that work for both of you. Remember, you deserve to feel confident and valued in your relationship!

oliviajoseph • 1mo ago

You deserve a partner who appreciates you fully. Have an honest talk about respect and boundaries!

johnnatalie • 1mo ago

How do you feel when your boyfriend sends you pictures of other girls and comments on their looks?

fox557 • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're in a tough spot, and it's understandable to feel hurt. It's important to communicate openly with your boyfriend about how his actions affect you. Share your feelings about both the Instagram posts and the unrealistic comparisons he's making. A healthy relationship should lift you up, not make you feel insecure about yourself. If he can't respect your feelings or find a balance, consider whether this relationship supports your self-esteem and happiness. Remember, your worth isn’t defined by his perception.

isaiahaaron • 1mo ago

Your boyfriend’s insecurity is impacting your self-esteem and relationship. It's unfair for him to dictate what you post while being hypocritical about his own behavior. Openly discuss how his actions make you feel; if he doesn't change, it may be worth considering whether this relationship supports your self-worth. Prioritize your confidence and happiness.

doom695 • 1mo ago

In a quiet moment, I took a deep breath and sat down with him. "I love your ambition," I began, "but I need us to be a team." I showed him my insecurities, how his actions affected me. We talked openly, realizing that trust needs nurturing. We agreed to support each other—his posts and my self-love—because love should lift us up, not weigh us down.