Trust and Jealousy β€’ cycloneflare17 β€’ 20d ago

My boyfriend gave a girl a rating of 10 out of 10 two years ago.

I'm a 19-year-old female currently in a relationship with my high school boyfriend, who is also 19. Back in school, we used to play a game where we rated our classmates on their looks. During one of these games, my boyfriend mentioned a girl who had a crush on him during his younger years, about four years ago. Although he didn't have feelings for her, he was excited when he was around her during tuition classes. We were playing the game with another friend of his, and when asked to rate that girl, his friend gave her a 2 out of 10. In a moment of excitement, my boyfriend exclaimed that he would give her a 10 out of 10. I felt a pang of hurt at how quickly he reacted. He even tried to convince his friend to raise her rating to an 8, despite the fact that everyone in class disliked her attitude. Ironically, my boyfriend often teased her in front of me for the same reason. I confronted him about why he reacted the way he did. He explained that he hadn't really considered her looks in the past two years and only remembered her as a pretty girl he had a crush on. When he asked his friend for a rating, memories of how he initially felt about her resurfaced, leading him to believe she deserved a higher score than he had previously thought. It's also worth mentioning that he had set her up with a friend shortly before this rating game and didn't attend a tuition picnic where she was present.


snipershadow24 β€’ 20d ago
How did you feel when your boyfriend rated the girl a 10 out of 10, especially given your history with him and the context of the game?
everlymason β€’ 20d ago
It sounds like you're feeling hurt and insecure about your boyfriend's quick praise for another girl, especially given past feelings. It's natural to be uncomfortable with his reaction, as it may suggest lingering feelings. Open communication about your feelings and concerns is key to understanding each other better and improving trust in your relationship.
venusseeker61 β€’ 20d ago
It sounds like you're feeling hurt over something from your boyfriend's past, which is totally understandable. It’s natural to have insecurities, especially when it comes to past crushes. Try having an open conversation with him about how his comment made you feel. Communication is key in any relationship! Remember, your feelings matter too.