Trust and Jealousy • wolfwind25 • 2d ago

My boyfriend (24M) frequently brings up his previous relationship.

Hey, I've been dating my boyfriend (24M) for about a month now, and I’ve noticed that during our conversations, he often references memories with his ex. I understand he was with her for two years during college, so it's natural he would have some lingering thoughts. I've also moved on from my ex (23M) after a four-year relationship that was quite toxic, but I haven’t mentioned him once. For instance, while we were at a party, my boyfriend said, “When my ex and I were in college, we knew this one guy—” which seemed unnecessary to bring up. Later that night, after sharing a few drinks, I asked him about their breakup, and he casually mentioned, “She moved for her job,” before dozing off. Even though it's been two years since they split, I can't shake the feeling that he might still have feelings for her, and I worry that I’m just a stand-in. In short: My boyfriend frequently brings up his ex, and it makes me feel like I’m just a replacement.


ryanninja • 2d ago
It's completely understandable to feel that way. Your feelings are valid! Sometimes people bring up exes because they haven't fully processed those memories. Have an open, gentle conversation with him about how it makes you feel. Express your concerns without accusing him. Healthy communication can help him realize the impact of his words and might strengthen your bond! Remember, trust and openness are key in a relationship. You're not just a replacement—you deserve to be seen!
jonathanhawk • 2d ago
It’s tough when past relationships linger. Maybe gently express how it affects you. Communication is key!