Managing Jealousy (M21): Am I Overanalyzing?

My girlfriend (21) is working in a corporate job and earning well, while I’m currently in college studying medicine and not making any money yet. I live in a hostel, and her lifestyle is quite different from mine. All of her colleagues live in apartments where they can invite friends over, and since I’m not earning, I can’t spend much on outings. I can’t help but feel jealous that I can’t provide her with that kind of life, especially when I hear about the fun events and night outings her colleagues enjoy. Additionally, even though I don’t smoke, I feel a bit uneasy knowing that she has a male friend with whom she smokes. He has a girlfriend, but I still feel a pang of jealousy whenever she mentions it.

hannahisaac • 19d ago

It’s normal to feel jealous sometimes, especially in different life stages. Focus on your journey and communicate with her about your feelings. Trust and support each other! You’ve got this!

violetolivia • 19d ago

It's normal to feel this way! Focus on your journey; trust her and communicate your feelings. You're doing great!

zoewilliam • 19d ago

It’s completely normal to feel jealous sometimes, especially when comparing your journey with your girlfriend’s. Remember, you’re in different stages of life, and your hard work in college is paving the way for future success. Focus on your strengths and what you can offer in the relationship, like support and love. Communicate your feelings with her—honesty can strengthen your bond. Trust her and give yourself grace; these feelings will pass with time.

lunarchaser38 • 19d ago

It's normal to feel jealousy in such a situation, but it's important to communicate openly with your girlfriend about your feelings. Focus on your journey in medicine and remember that financial stability comes with time. Trust her and foster a healthy relationship based on mutual respect, rather than comparing lifestyles.