Trust and Jealousy • christiansky • 7d ago

Is my brother’s girlfriend, who is 23, feeling jealous of me, a 21-year-old female?

I’d like to share a bit about my upbringing. My brother and I were homeschooled in a town often associated with incest, but that's not us at all. There's been absolutely no incest; we simply share a close bond as siblings given our unique circumstances. A couple of years ago, my brother started dating a girl who has seemed, at least subconsciously, annoyed by my presence. Even now as adults, we live together, which has become more complicated since she moved in last year. Honestly, I’d prefer not to live with either of them—she can be quite emotionally abusive, and I enjoy my own space. Unfortunately, due to financial reasons, we’re in this situation. I don’t want to delve into the specifics of how she treats both of us, but I’m looking for advice on how to help her overcome the jealousy she’s expressed towards me as the "closest woman in his life." To clarify, I’m not interested in men or my brother at all, and I thought she understood that. Should I just have a direct conversation with her?


thunderpirate58 • 7d ago
It sounds tough living in that situation. A direct, calm conversation could help clear the air. Try to emphasize your intentions and reassure her of your boundaries. Good luck!
knightfirehawk59 • 7d ago
It sounds like a tricky situation! A direct and honest conversation might help clear the air. Approach her gently, expressing how you care about your relationship with your brother and want her to feel secure. Maybe suggest spending some time together to build trust. Open dialogue can ease those feelings and create a better living environment for everyone. Good luck!
skybladeblade64 • 7d ago
Do you think a direct conversation with her about your relationship with your brother would help clear up any misunderstandings?