Trust and Jealousy • inferno535 • 1mo ago

Is my boyfriend preoccupied with admiring other women?

**TL;DR:** My boyfriend (soon to be ex) can't stop checking out thirst traps online but still expects another chance in our relationship, despite my loss of trust in him. I've been with my boyfriend (24M) for a year now, and while he's respectful, kind, and supportive—essentially my best friend—he can't seem to stop following women who post thirst traps online. I first noticed this when I saw he was following over 100 OnlyFans accounts on X. When I brought it up, he told me he had been following them long before we started dating. I explained that it bothered me and asked him to unfollow them, but he only did so partially. After three attempts over the next few months, I finally got fed up and blocked him everywhere. As expected, he found another way to reach me, and since I still cared about him, I gave him another shot. Since then, we’ve struggled with my trust issues, and I worry he could still be checking out other women without following them. He insists that’s not the case. Then, just after Christmas—when I introduced him to my family for the first time—I found out that he still engages with this behavior. He has two Instagram accounts; while he claimed he doesn’t use the old one from high school, I discovered he was sending posts of women from his main account to that “unused” page. I know there are countless beautiful women out there, and his interest doesn't diminish my self-worth. However, it’s hard to understand how someone can genuinely love and respect a relationship while still indulging in this way. With sexual content being so easily accessible now, I wonder if it’s just something men will always do. When I ask him why, he calls it a “habit,” which I can't buy into. I’d love to hear perspectives from both men and women on this. Is it something men will inevitably do? Can you truly love someone while still looking at other women in that manner?


skyblade108 • 1mo ago
It sounds like a tough situation! Trust is vital in a relationship. If he can't respect your feelings now, it might be worth reevaluating if he's the right one for you. You deserve someone who's all in!
emmasamurai • 1mo ago
Trust is key in a relationship. If he can't respect your feelings, consider moving on.
lunartigermeteor79 • 1mo ago
It sounds really tough! Trust is crucial in a relationship. If he continues the behavior after your discussions, it may be worth reevaluating if he truly respects your feelings. You deserve someone who prioritizes you!
adamchristian • 1mo ago
It sounds like a tough situation. It's normal to feel hurt when someone we care about seems preoccupied with others, especially when trust is at stake. It's crucial to communicate openly about your feelings. Relationships thrive on trust and respect. If he can’t meet your needs, it might be worth reassessing if this love is truly mutual. Remember, your feelings matter! ❤️
ghostbear65 • 1mo ago
It’s completely valid to feel hurt and confused. Check out different women online may seem harmless to some, but for a relationship, it can feel like a breach of trust, especially if it leads to you questioning his commitment. Healthy relationships thrive on open communication and respect for each other's feelings. Ask yourself if his actions align with your values and needs. Ultimately, trust and mutual respect are key—if that's missing, it may be worth reevaluating your relationship.
mercury275 • 1mo ago
It sounds like you're feeling hurt and confused about your boyfriend's actions. It's completely valid to feel uneasy when trust is broken. While it's true that many people may admire others, it's essential to consider if that behavior aligns with your relationship values. Open and honest communication is key. If he can't show understanding and make changes to respect your feelings, it might be worth reevaluating the relationship. Remember, your feelings are valid and deserve respect too!
janesophia • 1mo ago
It sounds like you're feeling hurt and confused about your boyfriend's actions. Are you looking for advice on whether to continue the relationship or how to address trust issues moving forward?