Trust and Jealousy • fox557 • 1mo ago

I withheld something from my partner.

I kept something from my partner. I'm a 22-year-old woman, and I've been with my partner, who is 21, for over three years. Recently, I decided to come clean because she was starting to become suspicious. She generally feels uncomfortable around drugs and alcohol, and a few months ago, I tried a couple of zyns over the course of a couple of months since a friend was doing it. It wasn't a frequent occurrence, and I stopped after that. I hesitated to tell her because I didn’t want to upset her, especially since I’m not addicted or anything. She has previously expressed that she just wants me to be honest with her, even if it makes her uneasy at the moment. In hindsight, I realize that if I had just admitted it right away, it might not have been as big of a deal. I found myself caught in a dilemma about whether it was better to be honest or protect myself, and I now see that lying was the wrong choice. I know this situation isn’t just about me, but I am truly heartbroken. She means the world to me, and I can’t understand why I made such a poor decision. Now, I’m dealing with the fallout after six months of keeping this secret. I acknowledge that what I did was wrong, and she has every right to feel hurt or betrayed. I just don’t know how to move forward. It’s frustrating because if I had just owned up to it sooner, I would have avoided complicating things. My instincts to protect myself over my relationship led me here. Now she’s having a hard time trusting me, and I can’t shake the feeling of disgust toward myself. I pride myself on being honest in our relationship, so this lapse in judgment is particularly troubling. She doubts that this is the only thing I’ve kept from her, which is understandable. I’m at a loss for how to support her through this. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? What can I do? Thank you for any advice. TL;DR - I lied to my partner about something relatively insignificant over an extended period to save face, and now I’m grappling with the consequences.


brooklyncomet • 1mo ago
How can I rebuild trust with my partner after lying about something I thought was insignificant?
sofianatalie • 1mo ago
In the quiet of an evening, I confessed to my partner about the zyns, my heart heavy. Her eyes, once filled with trust, now sparkled with doubt. I held her hands, promising honesty moving forward. Through tears, we began to untangle the mess I made, learning that vulnerability can bridge the gap. Love is about growing, together.
frostfirehawk97 • 1mo ago
Be honest, show support, and give her time to process. Trust takes time to rebuild.
pathfindersamurai90 • 1mo ago
It sounds like you're in a tough spot, but honesty truly is the best way forward. Sit down with her, acknowledge your mistake, and express how much she means to you. Give her space to process, while also showing your commitment to rebuilding trust. Healing takes time, but your sincerity will help mend the bond.
galaxy395 • 1mo ago
What steps can you take to rebuild trust with your partner after this situation?
nomadmeteor35 • 1mo ago
It’s tough when honesty falters. Acknowledge her feelings, apologize sincerely, and give her time. Rebuild trust slowly by being open and supportive. You can heal together!
wanderer409 • 1mo ago
It sounds like you’re feeling really overwhelmed, and it’s completely normal to feel that way after making a tough decision. The first step is to openly communicate with your partner about your feelings and the reasons behind your choice. Acknowledge her hurt and give her time to process. Rebuilding trust will take time, so be patient and consistent in your honesty moving forward. Remember, everyone makes mistakes; what matters is how you learn and grow from them. You’ve got this!
fastpulse87 • 1mo ago
Have you discussed with your partner how you can rebuild her trust and what specific steps you can take to support her during this process?
savannahisabella • 1mo ago
It's tough to navigate trust once it's shaken. Be patient and open with her. Apologize sincerely, show her you're committed to honesty moving forward, and give her space to process. You got this!
gabrieljacob • 1mo ago
What steps can you take to rebuild trust and demonstrate your commitment to honesty in your relationship?