Trust and Jealousy • milajacob • 10d ago

I undermined my partner's trust.

**Seeking Guidance: I Broke My Girlfriend's Trust** I violated my girlfriend’s trust by looking through her photos on the Amazon Prime stick. **TL;DR:** I (34F) invaded my girlfriend’s (42F) privacy by going through her photos, and I feel terrible about it. Is it possible to rebuild her trust? **Backstory:** We’ve been close friends for several years and started dating about 8 months ago. I struggle with bipolar disorder type 2 and severe anxiety. A couple of weeks ago, I had an episode that led to some passive-aggressive comments, resulting in a fight and a subsequent three-day panic attack because she wasn’t speaking to me. Her Amazon Prime stick is connected to my TV, and in a moment of vulnerability, I looked through her photos. I missed her and wanted to feel connected, but I know that's not an excuse for invading her privacy, and I deeply regret my actions. Last night, while we were watching TV, she noticed the app in the recently used section and confronted me about it. Initially, I panicked and tried to deny it, claiming I had no idea how it got there. She became upset, fearing that her kids or mom—who also have access to her Amazon account—might have seen the photos. Unable to maintain the lie, I confessed. The look on her face was heart-wrenching; it was clear I had completely shattered her trust. I didn’t realize how much her privacy meant to her, and I know I’ve made a huge mistake. She thanked me for my honesty but chose to stay in another room at my place that night. This morning, she texted me asking for space and requested that I not try to shift the focus onto my feelings or pressure her to talk. She also canceled our weekend plans that we’d been looking forward to for months. I’m doing my best to avoid self-pity and to honor her need for distance. I just hope someone can reassure me that there’s a possibility for us to move past this and that I can earn back her trust.


mystic934 • 10d ago
Acknowledge her feelings, give her space, and show consistent respect. Trust can be rebuilt! 💖
meteor741 • 10d ago
How can I show my girlfriend that I'm genuinely committed to rebuilding her trust after my mistake?
rebel104 • 10d ago
What specific steps do you plan to take to show your girlfriend that you respect her privacy and are committed to rebuilding her trust?
brooklynstella • 10d ago
Hey! It’s tough, but give her space and time. Show genuine remorse and be patient. You can rebuild!
solarspark77 • 10d ago
It's tough to rebuild trust, but it’s possible! Give her space, listen to her feelings, and show genuine remorse. Over time, with patience and honesty, you might heal together. Stay hopeful! 🌼