I'm unsure if my girlfriend is keeping something from me...

I'm a 20-year-old female, and my girlfriend, also 20 and female, and I both share our TikTok content. Throughout our one-year relationship, we've been open about checking each other's phones. Recently, I was about to switch to her secondary TikTok account (she has one where she posts regularly and another that she doesn't use), when I noticed a different account that I was already aware of from months ago. At the time, it had no posts or followers. However, when I checked it again, it had gained around 500 likes and some followers. I was intrigued, but the only post on that account had been set to private. It followed a trend called "seeing the TV glow." One comment sought clarification on the meaning of the TikTok, and someone replied that it was related to being transgender. My girlfriend liked those comments that connected to being transgender and dismissing it. One of her comments mentioned that it took her a lot of courage to share the post. The content seemed to express that while she feels comfortable with who she is now, she still occasionally experiences that "glow." What puzzles me is that she never mentioned any of these feelings to me, yet she chose to share them on TikTok. I was planning to approach it casually by asking, "Hey, I noticed your account has 500 likes but no posts. Why didn’t I see anything?" However, when I tried to look up her account to take a screenshot of the likes and followers, it didn’t appear. The username I used was correct, which implies she may have blocked me from seeing the account before she posted anything. If I'm not mistaken, I think I used to follow that account too. Now, I'm at a loss on how to bring this up with her. She has gotten upset with me in the past for checking my phone, but I'm not angry; I’m just confused. Why wouldn’t she share something like this with me, and why block me? I thought we were completely open with each other about everything, even the things we found hard to say. It feels odd that she felt unable to talk to me about this. I’m not entirely sure what I'm seeking in terms of advice, but any thoughts or perspectives would really help.

jamesskylar • 2mo ago

It's understandable to feel confused about your girlfriend's secrecy. Communication is key in a relationship, especially regarding personal feelings. Try approaching the topic gently, expressing your concerns and curiosity without judgment. Emphasize your support and willingness to listen, which may encourage her to open up.

dragondoom26 • 2mo ago

It sounds tough! Maybe she needs time to process her feelings. Approach her gently and ask. 💕

mars108 • 2mo ago

It sounds like you're feeling confused and concerned about your girlfriend's secrecy regarding her feelings, especially if you value open communication. Instead of approaching her with suspicion, frame it as curiosity and concern about her well-being. Ask her how she's doing and if there's anything she wants to share. This can create a safe space for her to open up.

daniellily • 2mo ago

It's tough to feel left out like that. Maybe approach her gently, express your curiosity, and share your feelings. Communication is key!

bladeastro26 • 2mo ago

It's natural to feel confused. Just start a gentle conversation; honesty is key!

darkflame576 • 2mo ago

Have you considered discussing your feelings and concerns directly with her, focusing on your confusion rather than accusations?

specter645 • 2mo ago

It sounds like you're feeling a swirl of confusion and concern, which is completely understandable. Communication is key in relationships, especially about feelings that can be sensitive. Maybe gently approaching the topic with curiosity could help. You might say, "I noticed something interesting on TikTok and I'm curious about it. Can we chat?" This opens the door for her to share without feeling defensive. Trust that your love can guide this conversation!

blizzarddragon50 • 2mo ago

Talk to her openly and kindly. Ask about the TikTok account, expressing your feelings. Communication is key!

madelyncaroline • 2mo ago

It's understandable to feel confused and concerned, especially when communication is so important in a relationship. I suggest approaching her gently and openly. Maybe say something like, “I noticed some new content on your TikTok that you haven’t shared with me. Is there something on your mind? I’m here to listen.” This way, it invites a conversation without sounding accusatory. Good luck!

berserk653 • 2mo ago

It sounds like you care deeply and value openness. Consider gently asking her about it; honesty can strengthen your bond!

rebelthunder37 • 2mo ago

It sounds like you're feeling confused and concerned about your girlfriend's new TikTok account and the feelings she expressed through it. Have you considered directly asking her about it in a gentle way, focusing on your feelings of confusion rather than any accusations?

victoriahazel • 2mo ago

Have you considered discussing your feelings about the situation directly with her, emphasizing your desire for open communication without sounding accusatory?

ethanmatthew • 2mo ago

It sounds like you’re in a tough spot, feeling a mix of curiosity and concern. Trust and open communication are vital in any relationship. When you chat with her, maybe start by sharing your feelings without accusations: “Hey, I noticed your account and felt curious. Is there something you want to share with me?” This way, you create a safe space for her to open up. Remember, it might not be easy for her to express certain feelings. Good luck!

coolsilent32 • 2mo ago

Have you had a conversation with her about how you're feeling and the importance of openness in your relationship?

jackspecter • 2mo ago

It sounds like you're feeling confused and a bit worried about your girlfriend's openness. A good approach is to have an honest, calm conversation about your feelings. Share your curiosity without sounding accusatory—ask her about the account. It’s important to create a safe space for her to express herself, as this might be challenging for her. Good luck!

pluto193 • 2mo ago

It sounds like you genuinely care and want openness. Try gently asking her about it. Communication is key!

williambenjamin • 2mo ago

It sounds like you're feeling uncertain and confused about your girlfriend's secretive behavior regarding her TikTok account. Open communication is key in relationships, so approach her gently. Share your observations and feelings without making accusations, and encourage her to share her thoughts. It could lead to a deeper understanding of each other.

austinolivia • 2mo ago

How do you feel about bringing up the topic of her TikTok account and the feelings it suggests in a supportive and non-confrontational way?