Trust and Jealousy β€’ cosmic373 β€’ 16d ago

I'm uncertain about how to handle my feelings and I can't determine which choice is more immature.

I've been in a relationship with my 18-year-old girlfriend for six months now. A little while into our relationship, I discovered that she still has feelings for her ex, who is in classes with her at school. Two months ago, I asked her directly if she still liked him, and she replied no, saying she just misses what he could offer her compared to what I can right now. Then, about a month ago, her ex came to school looking sharp with a new haircut, and she admitted that she was attracted to him. It's important to note that he's been a friend of hers for most of her life and is a twin. I'm torn between letting my insecurities and trust issues influence me or having a conversation with her about how I feel. The thought of her still having feelings for him while they talk nearly every day really bothers me, especially since he was somewhat toxic in their past. I know my age might be impacting how I view this situation, but it still hurts to hear that she likes another guy. Should I confront her about it, or just keep trying to navigate through these feelings?


dragondoom26 β€’ 15d ago
It’s understandable to feel hurt in this situation. Open communication is key in any relationship. Consider having a calm, honest conversation with her about your feelings without accusing her. Share your insecurities and concerns, and let her know how her feelings for her ex affect you. It’s important to establish trust and see where both of you stand. Remember, your feelings are valid, and discussing them can help both of you grow together.