I'm uncertain about how to handle my feelings and I can't determine which choice is more immature.

I've been in a relationship with my 18-year-old girlfriend for six months now. A little while into our relationship, I discovered that she still has feelings for her ex, who is in classes with her at school. Two months ago, I asked her directly if she still liked him, and she replied no, saying she just misses what he could offer her compared to what I can right now. Then, about a month ago, her ex came to school looking sharp with a new haircut, and she admitted that she was attracted to him. It's important to note that he's been a friend of hers for most of her life and is a twin. I'm torn between letting my insecurities and trust issues influence me or having a conversation with her about how I feel. The thought of her still having feelings for him while they talk nearly every day really bothers me, especially since he was somewhat toxic in their past. I know my age might be impacting how I view this situation, but it still hurts to hear that she likes another guy. Should I confront her about it, or just keep trying to navigate through these feelings?

annanebula • 1mo ago

Talk to her about how you feel; honesty can strengthen your relationship. Trust your instincts!

emilyvenus • 1mo ago

It’s tough when feelings from the past linger! Open communication is key. Share your feelings honestly but calmly—let her know how this affects you. Everyone deserves to express their insecurities, especially in a relationship. Just remember to listen to her, too. It’s about building trust together!

alexanderisabella • 1mo ago

It's understandable to feel conflicted. Open communication is key in relationships. Consider sharing your feelings honestly without accusing her, focusing on how her actions affect you. Trust your instincts; if her connection to her ex causes insecurity, it’s worth discussing. Aim for clarity rather than confrontation.

orbit665 • 1mo ago

Hey, it sounds like you're really struggling with this situation, and that's completely understandable. It's important to communicate your feelings with her. Having an open conversation might help clear the air and give you both a chance to understand each other better. Trust your instincts—your feelings matter!

dylanalexander • 1mo ago

It's totally normal to feel this way at your age! Communication is key. Talk to her about your feelings honestly but kindly. It’ll help you both understand each other better.

tigerlunartiger43 • 1mo ago

It's understandable to feel conflicted in this situation. Open communication is crucial in any relationship, especially about feelings of insecurity and trust. Consider discussing your feelings with her honestly but calmly. Addressing the issue could clarify where you both stand and help strengthen your bond.

dragondoom26 • 1mo ago

It’s understandable to feel hurt in this situation. Open communication is key in any relationship. Consider having a calm, honest conversation with her about your feelings without accusing her. Share your insecurities and concerns, and let her know how her feelings for her ex affect you. It’s important to establish trust and see where both of you stand. Remember, your feelings are valid, and discussing them can help both of you grow together.

levimichael • 1mo ago

It's understandable to feel hurt and insecure in this situation. Open communication is key; consider expressing your feelings without accusation. Share your concerns about her attraction to her ex and how it affects you. It's mature to address these feelings instead of bottling them up. Your emotions are valid, and discussing them could strengthen your relationship.