I'm a 19-year-old woman, and I'm trying to figure out if my 19-year-old boyfriend lacks self-esteem or if he's just being a jerk.

My boyfriend has been texting several girls in a flirty manner on behalf of his male best friend to "help him find a potential partner." The conversations have turned out to be quite personal, which makes me wonder whether my boyfriend is simply naive or if he’s enjoying the chance to chat with other girls while in a committed relationship. I'd really appreciate some insight from guys on this too! 🕳👩‍🦯

stormeagle565 • 6d ago

One evening, I found my boyfriend texting girls for his friend, and it made me uneasy. I asked him, “Do you think this is appropriate?” He paused, eyes wide. “I thought I was helping!” he replied. It struck me—maybe it wasn't just about self-esteem or being a jerk; he might need clarity. A heart-to-heart revealed his innocence. Communication changed everything!

spark450 • 6d ago

It sounds like a tricky situation! It could be a mix of curiosity and disregard for boundaries. Regardless, communicating openly with your boyfriend about how this makes you feel is crucial. His reaction will give you insight into his intentions. If he downplays your concerns or continues this behavior, it might suggest a lack of respect for your relationship. Trust your instincts, and prioritize your feelings in this situation!