I have a feeling that my boyfriend was glancing at another woman while we were being intimate.

I need some advice. I'm a 33-year-old woman, and my boyfriend is 29. We've been officially together for a year and a half but had been seeing each other for a long time prior to that. Last Friday, we enjoyed a wonderful evening together. We had what I thought was great sex, and later, I was giving him oral pleasure while he played games on his tablet—something I find fun to do occasionally. A few weeks back, I noticed he had been emailing a woman he hadn't mentioned before. I spotted it a few times when he was on his tablet or computer (I haven't gone through his personal things). I tend to be insecure due to past experiences, so I asked him about her. He assured me she was just an old friend who had reconnected and that there had never been anything romantic between them. I was satisfied with his explanation and chose to trust him. On Friday night, while I was giving him oral sex, I was under the covers for a bit before emerging. He placed his tablet on the bed, and I continued. He held my head down as I was performing oral, which was fine by me since consensual activities like that are part of our dynamic. However, he was notably forceful this time, but I didn't dwell on it. We finished up, cuddled, and went to bed. The next day, while he visited family, I sat down to do some work on the computer. Noticing that one of his games had been left open overnight, I didn’t realize I was logged into his Google account. I intended to buy Christmas gifts, so I searched my browsing history for a tab I had used the day before. To my shock, I saw multiple Google searches for the woman he’d been emailing, along with a Depop picture of her—just a torso shot. This was a bit concerning, especially since it was past 11 PM when we were in bed together. I thought we shared a lovely evening, with him mostly playing games on his tablet, and I really believed there were no issues in our relationship. Now I’m left wondering: Was he looking at that while I was giving him head? Did he sneak off to check it after we were intimate or when I stepped outside for a cigarette break? Could this just be an innocent situation that I'm overreacting about? This uncertainty is driving me crazy—I feel betrayed, unattractive, and disrespected. I’m unsure how to approach this without risking our relationship, as I am afraid he might think I violated his trust by looking at his account, even though that wasn’t my intention.

dylanviolet • 3mo ago

It sounds tough to navigate these feelings. Open communication is key. Share your concerns honestly, and let him explain. Trust is essential, so take a moment to listen and assess together.

chrisblizzard • 3mo ago

It’s completely natural to feel uneasy about this situation, especially with your past insecurities. Open communication is key. Consider expressing how you feel without sounding accusatory. You might say, “I've been feeling a bit insecure lately and I just need some reassurance about us.” This approach can help you both clarify boundaries and foster trust. Remember, you deserve to feel valued and respected in your relationship. Take care!

saturnpirate97 • 3mo ago

It’s understandable to feel anxious in this situation, especially with past insecurities. Communication is vital. Consider discussing your feelings with your boyfriend gently, focusing on how his actions affected you rather than accusing him. Express your concerns and ask about the woman without sounding confrontational. Honesty can strengthen your bond, and he might appreciate your vulnerability. Remember, it’s okay to prioritize your feelings and boundaries.

sofiasilent • 3mo ago

I’m really sorry to hear you’re feeling this way. Trust your instincts, but open communication is key. Talk to him about your feelings and concerns without accusations. He may surprise you!

outlawnomad23 • 3mo ago

Have you considered having an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend about your feelings and concerns regarding the situation, while also expressing your desire to maintain trust in your relationship?

autumnshock • 3mo ago

It’s understandable to feel concerned. Communicate openly with him about your feelings. Trust is key!

fox190 • 3mo ago

I totally understand how you're feeling right now. It’s tough when trust feels shaken. Have an open, honest conversation with him about your concerns. Express your feelings without accusations, focusing on how his actions affected you. Communication is key; it might help you both clear the air and strengthen your bond.

cosmicfire59 • 3mo ago

How can you address your concerns about your boyfriend's behavior and the situation with the woman without causing conflict or making him feel like you've violated his trust?

wolfstorm35 • 3mo ago

It’s tough to feel that way, especially after a nice evening. Trust your instincts, but communicate openly. Share your feelings without accusations. Honesty is key! 🌸

icecyclone60 • 3mo ago

It sounds like you’re in a tough spot, and it’s totally normal to feel concerned. Trust is crucial. Have an open, honest conversation with him about how you feel. Avoid accusations; instead, express your insecurities and what you saw. It might lead to a deeper understanding and strengthen your bond. You deserve clarity and reassurance! 💕

cool750 • 3mo ago

Trust your gut. Communicate your feelings honestly with him. It’s key for your peace of mind.

stellaneptune • 3mo ago

It's natural to feel insecure and anxious in this situation. Trust issues can stem from past experiences, and your boyfriend's behavior raises valid concerns. Open communication is essential—express your feelings without accusations. Ask for clarity about the searches and his relationship with the woman. Honesty is vital for building trust.

dylanalexander • 3mo ago

Talk to him openly about your feelings. Trust is key, and communication is essential.

wolfsoul244 • 3mo ago

How do you feel about confronting your boyfriend about your concerns regarding the woman and the incident, while also addressing your feelings of insecurity and the breach of trust from looking at his account?

rebelthunder37 • 3mo ago

Have you considered discussing your feelings and concerns with him directly, focusing on how his actions made you feel rather than accusing him of wrongdoing?

aubreysaturn • 3mo ago

It's tough to feel that way. Trust your instincts; have an open chat with him about your feelings.

sebastianeagle • 3mo ago

It’s completely understandable to feel unsettled by this situation. Trust your feelings, but also remember that assumptions can lead to misunderstandings. Consider having an open, honest conversation with your boyfriend about how you’re feeling. Share your concerns, but do so without accusing him. This can help clear the air and strengthen your bond. It’s important for both of you to feel secure and respected in your relationship. 💖

phoenix200 • 3mo ago

I totally understand how you're feeling—it's tough to wrestle with insecurities, especially when trust is in question. Approach him gently: express your feelings about what you noticed, without accusations. Open communication can clarify misunderstandings and help rebuild trust. You've got this!

brooklynfrost • 3mo ago

How do you feel about directly addressing your concerns with him, considering both the suspicions you have and your need for open communication in the relationship?