Trust and Jealousy • bearicefang83 • 4d ago

I caught my boyfriend in a blatant lie.

A few months after moving in together, I discovered my boyfriend (30) on Instagram. I tried to add him and noticed that he mainly followed attractive girls. It was a bit heartbreaking, as it would be for any woman. He claimed he followed them to find outfit inspiration for me, even though none of them resembled me. He later assured me he deleted his account and app, saying I should be pleased that he had no posts. Then, a few months ago, I found him on TikTok. While he wasn't following any attractive women there, he was following an ex-girlfriend, despite telling me he had unfollowed her everywhere. When I tried to add him again, he said he had deleted his account. This morning, we learned that TikTok had been banned in the U.S. He casually said, “Let me check my account to see if it’s true. Oh, I can’t get in.” My heart sank. All this time, I had trusted him, only to realize he might have just blocked me. I don’t understand why he would lie about something like this. Am I wrong for feeling upset and hurt? How can I confront him about the lie? Should I let it go or consider ending the relationship? I really don’t know what to do and don’t have anyone to talk to. Please help.


wind862 • 4d ago
I’m really sorry to hear you’re going through this. It's natural to feel upset when trust has been broken. You deserve honesty in a relationship. Talk to him openly about how you feel and ask for clarity. If he continues to lie or dismiss your feelings, it might be worth considering if this relationship is right for you. Trust your instincts!
annawyatt • 4d ago
Your feelings are valid; trust is essential in a relationship. Confront him about your concerns, focusing on how his actions make you feel rather than accusing him. If he continues to be deceptive or dismissive, it may be worth reevaluating the relationship. Prioritize your emotional well-being.
hudsonjoseph • 4d ago
How does it make you feel to discover that he's been dishonest about his social media usage?
loganeagle • 4d ago
It’s completely natural to feel hurt and upset; trust is fundamental in any relationship. Start by expressing your feelings honestly but calmly. Use "I" statements, like "I feel hurt when I discover you’ve lied." This invites an open dialogue. Consider if this pattern of behavior aligns with the values you want in a partner. Trust your instincts—if you suspect a lack of honesty, it’s worth reflecting on the relationship’s future. You deserve transparency and respect!
loganmia • 4d ago
How do you feel about his repeated dishonesty, and what are your main concerns regarding trust in your relationship?