How should I (26F) address my boyfriend (30M) regarding his social media follows?

My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year, and recently I've started to feel uneasy about who he’s following on social media. Most of these accounts belong to girls who share risqué photos and videos, often linking to their OnlyFans pages. This raises questions for me about whether he’s spending money on this content or using other platforms like Snapchat or Telegram that I’m unaware of. Additionally, he recently began following his ex, which adds another layer to my concerns. A couple of months ago, I expressed how uncomfortable this made me feel, and he did unfollow several of those accounts, but he’s since followed a bunch of new ones that evoke similar feelings. While I’m fine with him watching porn, following these accounts feels different and undermines my trust in him. It makes me feel insecure and hesitant to share anything personal with him. I’m seeking advice on how to address this issue productively. Given that I’ve already raised it before, should I view this as a red flag? I’m torn and would appreciate some outside perspectives.

falcon746 • 2mo ago

It sounds like your feelings are completely valid! Consider sitting down with your boyfriend for an open and honest chat. Share how you feel about his social media, focusing on your emotions rather than accusations. Maybe suggest setting some mutual boundaries to help rebuild trust. It could deepen your connection if handled thoughtfully!

starwolf16 • 2mo ago

How do you think your boyfriend would react if you brought up your feelings about his social media follows again?

aubreydragon • 2mo ago

It's completely valid to feel uneasy about this! Open communication is key. Approach your boyfriend calmly, expressing your feelings without blame. Share why his social media follows make you uncomfortable and how it impacts your trust. It's important to listen to his perspective too. This is a chance to see if you both share similar values about boundaries in a relationship. If he dismisses your feelings again, then it might be worth reflecting on your trust and comfort levels moving forward.

connorwilliam • 2mo ago

What specific aspects of his social media following make you feel insecure, and how do you believe you could communicate those feelings to him effectively?

mystic566 • 2mo ago

It's important to communicate openly with your boyfriend about your feelings. Express your concerns clearly and calmly, focusing on how his actions affect your trust and security in the relationship. If he dismisses your discomfort or continues the behavior, it may indicate a lack of respect for your boundaries. Trust your instincts and consider if this relationship meets your emotional needs.

thunder373 • 2mo ago

Talk to him openly about your feelings and concerns. Communication is key!

fast918 • 2mo ago

How can you bring up your feelings about his social media follows in a way that encourages an open and honest conversation?

astroberserk45 • 2mo ago

What specific feelings or concerns do you want to communicate to your boyfriend about his social media follows?

sophiacomet • 2mo ago

Hey there! It’s totally valid to feel uneasy. Consider having an open, honest convo about your feelings, emphasizing trust. Clear communication can help you both find a compromise!