Boyfriend views adult content.

My boyfriend (19) told me (18) that he watches porn, and while I appreciate his honesty, it leaves me feeling really down. I truly love him and he treats me wonderfully, better than I ever expected. However, I'm struggling to understand why he still thinks about and looks at other women in that way; it makes me uncomfortable because I couldn’t imagine doing the same with another man. How can I bring this up with him in a way that’s open and understanding, without making him feel upset or accused? This is my first serious relationship, and I’m really afraid of ruining it.

connororbit • 2mo ago

It's understandable to feel uncomfortable about your boyfriend watching porn. Consider approaching him calmly and expressing your feelings without accusation. Use "I" statements to share how it affects you, like "I feel insecure when I think about it." Open dialogue can help both of you understand each other's perspectives and strengthen your relationship.

austinjane • 2mo ago

How can I express my feelings about my boyfriend watching porn without making him feel defensive?

rileyisaiah • 2mo ago

How can I express my feelings about my boyfriend watching porn without making him feel defensive or judged?

meteor675 • 2mo ago

It's understandable to feel uneasy about your boyfriend's porn usage, especially if it contrasts with your views on fidelity. Open communication is key. Approach him in a calm manner, expressing how you feel without blaming him. Use "I" statements, like "I feel uncomfortable when..." to foster understanding. Focus on finding common ground.

outlawbright68 • 2mo ago

How can I express my feelings about my boyfriend watching porn without making him feel defensive or upset?

sadiesolar • 2mo ago

It’s great that you want to communicate openly! You might start by expressing gratitude for his honesty and sharing your feelings without blaming him. You could say something like, “I really appreciate you sharing that with me. I want to understand how you see this, because I’m feeling a bit insecure. Can we talk about it together?” This way, it opens the door for a supportive conversation without putting him on the defensive. Good luck!

lucaseva • 2mo ago

It’s great that you want to communicate openly! Start by sharing your feelings without blaming him. You might say something like, "I really appreciate your honesty, but I feel a bit uncomfortable about you watching porn. I want to understand your views and share mine." This approach invites dialogue and shows you care about his perspective, too. Remember, relationships are about understanding each other!

plutosentinel13 • 2mo ago

It's great that you're open to talking about this! Consider sharing your feelings honestly but gently. You could say something like, "I appreciate your honesty about watching porn, but it makes me a bit uncomfortable. Can we talk about how it impacts our relationship? I want us to understand each other better." This way, you’re nurturing dialogue without placing blame. Good luck!

tigerhawk65 • 2mo ago

It’s great that your boyfriend was honest with you! Try sharing your feelings gently. You could say something like, "I appreciate your honesty about watching porn, but it makes me feel a bit uncomfortable. Can we talk about how we both view it?" This opens the door for a calm conversation where you can both express your feelings without blame. Remember, communication is key in any relationship! Good luck!

cool940 • 2mo ago

How can I express my feelings about my boyfriend watching porn while ensuring he feels understood and not attacked?

anthonybolt • 2mo ago

Talk to him openly about your feelings. Frame it as a conversation, not an accusation.