Trust and Jealousy • sophiablizzard • 22d ago

Boyfriend spends time with his ex.

I'm a 24-year-old woman, and I rekindled my relationship with my boyfriend, who is 25, in July. We used to date in high school. When we got back together, I was aware that he still maintained some friendship with his ex due to shared responsibilities over their pets. I initially thought they only interacted when it was necessary for the animals. His ex has been in a serious relationship with someone else for over a year now. At first, my boyfriend wouldn’t tell me in advance when he was meeting up with her; he would let me know afterward to avoid upsetting me. However, I eventually asked him to inform me beforehand so I could gauge my reaction, and today he did just that. I trust him, but I still feel uneasy. I learned that she reacted emotionally when she found out he was dating me again, and he mentioned that she doesn’t like me. This is partly because I was involved with him while they were just starting to talk seven years ago, although I was unaware of that at the time. I’m feeling conflicted—I want to ask him a lot of questions to alleviate my concerns, but I also trust him. Having been cheated on before adds to my anxiety. I’d appreciate any advice or thoughts on this situation. Thank you!


phoenix335 • 22d ago
It's understandable to feel uneasy given your past experiences. Communication is key! Talk to your boyfriend about your feelings while expressing your trust in him. Share your concerns and how his relationship with his ex affects you. It's okay to set boundaries for your comfort. Remember, it's about creating a safe space for both of you to share openly. Trust is built over time, so take it step by step. You deserve to feel secure in your relationship!
tornadoblizzard13 • 22d ago
How does your boyfriend reassure you about his feelings and boundaries with his ex?
sebastiancobra • 22d ago
It’s completely normal to feel uneasy in this situation. Communication is key! Talk to your boyfriend about your feelings—honesty can strengthen your bond. Trust your instincts, and prioritize your own well-being! 💖