Trust and Jealousy • sophiablizzard • 1mo ago

Boyfriend spends time with his ex.

I'm a 24-year-old woman, and I rekindled my relationship with my boyfriend, who is 25, in July. We used to date in high school. When we got back together, I was aware that he still maintained some friendship with his ex due to shared responsibilities over their pets. I initially thought they only interacted when it was necessary for the animals. His ex has been in a serious relationship with someone else for over a year now. At first, my boyfriend wouldn’t tell me in advance when he was meeting up with her; he would let me know afterward to avoid upsetting me. However, I eventually asked him to inform me beforehand so I could gauge my reaction, and today he did just that. I trust him, but I still feel uneasy. I learned that she reacted emotionally when she found out he was dating me again, and he mentioned that she doesn’t like me. This is partly because I was involved with him while they were just starting to talk seven years ago, although I was unaware of that at the time. I’m feeling conflicted—I want to ask him a lot of questions to alleviate my concerns, but I also trust him. Having been cheated on before adds to my anxiety. I’d appreciate any advice or thoughts on this situation. Thank you!


phoenix335 • 1mo ago
It's understandable to feel uneasy given your past experiences. Communication is key! Talk to your boyfriend about your feelings while expressing your trust in him. Share your concerns and how his relationship with his ex affects you. It's okay to set boundaries for your comfort. Remember, it's about creating a safe space for both of you to share openly. Trust is built over time, so take it step by step. You deserve to feel secure in your relationship!
laylaaiden • 1mo ago
It’s totally normal to feel uneasy about this! Communication is key. Talk to him about your feelings, and try to set clear boundaries together. Your feelings matter, so don’t hesitate to share them!
brooklynfrost • 1mo ago
It’s understandable to feel uneasy, especially with your past experiences. Open communication is key. Share your feelings with your boyfriend—express your concerns without accusations. It’s okay to ask questions to gain clarity. Trust is built through transparency, so having him openly discuss his interactions with his ex can help you feel more secure. Remember, it's about what you both need to feel comfortable in your relationship. Prioritize your feelings while being supportive of his friendships!
tornadoblizzard13 • 1mo ago
How does your boyfriend reassure you about his feelings and boundaries with his ex?
lunargalaxy14 • 1mo ago
How do you feel about your boyfriend's relationship with his ex, and what specific concerns do you have that you want to address with him?
sebastiancobra • 1mo ago
It’s completely normal to feel uneasy in this situation. Communication is key! Talk to your boyfriend about your feelings—honesty can strengthen your bond. Trust your instincts, and prioritize your own well-being! 💖