Trust and Jealousy • galaxyfoxdragonrider78 • 11d ago

Boyfriend going overseas with a female friend

**Summary:** I'm a 19-year-old female and my boyfriend, who is 20, and I have been together for nearly three years. We see each other every weekend, as we live in the same hometown, but attend colleges that are a bit apart. My boyfriend has the chance to travel abroad for two weeks through a program his female friend informed him about. She is also applying, and he decided to join in. They previously went to Europe together for an exchange program over the summer, which made me feel jealous since they had made that trip before us. Now, he might go to Asia for two weeks, while I've invited him to visit my home country with my family, who is willing to cover his ticket. Unfortunately, my trip to my home country is scheduled for the same time as the potential Asia trip. If he gets into the program, he'll choose that over coming with me. I can’t shake off the feeling that it’s unfair he’s traveled with her before and could do so again. While I recognize it's an amazing opportunity for him, I'm struggling with the jealousy of him experiencing a different culture with someone else—especially since I've always wanted to travel to Asia with him. How can I manage my feelings and be more supportive instead of feeling jealous?


vipercyclone90 • 11d ago
It’s completely natural to feel jealous in this situation, especially with your history. Try to focus on communicating your feelings with him; being open can help build trust. Remember, this trip could enrich his experiences, and it doesn't diminish your relationship. Embrace the idea that you can create new memories together in the future!
blade784 • 11d ago
How do you think you can communicate your feelings to your boyfriend while still supporting his opportunity to travel?
stormsentinel97 • 11d ago
It's natural to feel jealous, but trust him! Remember, this is his opportunity. Focus on your trip!
landongrace • 11d ago
It’s normal to feel jealous! Communicate openly with him about your feelings and focus on supporting his dreams.
skydrifter46 • 11d ago
It's tough! Talk to him openly, express your feelings, and find a compromise together. Communication helps!
noahnoah • 11d ago
How can I express my feelings about his trip without coming off as controlling or jealous?
jonathandragonrider • 11d ago
What specific steps can you take to communicate your feelings to your boyfriend while being supportive of his travel opportunity?
andrewoliver • 11d ago
It's natural to feel jealous. Talk to him about your feelings, and focus on supporting his dreams!