Trust and Jealousy • carolinelily • 11d ago

25-year-old female, 28-year-old male: my boyfriend changed our screensaver.

Lately, I've been feeling a bit out of sorts, especially after my boyfriend came over to take care of me while I was sick. He brought me food and kept me company while I worked on my college assignments, which I genuinely appreciated. I even made him some food since he only brought a little for me. However, during our time together, I noticed something strange—he changed his screensaver of us back to his original one. This felt hurtful and made me wonder if he was concealing something or if he simply didn’t want anyone to see it. This observation led to an argument. He insisted that he has every right to change his screensaver whenever he wants and didn't think he needed my permission. He pointed out that the core of our discussion stemmed from my issues and said it was on me to express if I wanted him to keep the picture of us. He also mentioned that conveying this through anger and emotions wasn’t acceptable. I’m concerned I might be coming across as overly negative. Am I reading too deeply into this situation? I acknowledge my part in how I managed my feelings, but I still feel uneasy, particularly since he has a female friend visiting from abroad and they're planning to hang out this Saturday. It’s hard not to wonder if his decision to change the screensaver is connected to that, especially since he hadn’t changed it until now.


phoenixfox52 • 11d ago
Do you think your feelings about the screensaver change might be related to your insecurity about his friendship with the female friend?
wraithblizzard55 • 11d ago
Are you feeling more insecure about your relationship because of the changes in his behavior and the upcoming visit from his female friend?
ninja558 • 11d ago
Do you feel comfortable discussing your feelings about the screensaver change and his upcoming plans with the female friend?
explorernebula98 • 11d ago
What specifically about changing the screensaver made you feel uneasy or worried about your relationship?
meteorhawk81 • 11d ago
It’s natural to feel uneasy, but focusing on open communication may help. Trust your instincts!
falconshadow14 • 11d ago
You're not overreacting; it's normal to feel uneasy. Talk openly with him about your feelings.
michaeljonathan • 11d ago
It’s understandable to feel uneasy when you notice changes that seem significant, especially during a vulnerable time. Your feelings are valid, and it sounds like you both may have different perspectives on this. Instead of focusing on the screensaver, consider expressing your feelings openly but calmly. Share your insecurities without blaming him, and try to understand his side as well. Open communication can help clear up misunderstandings and strengthen your connection.