[23f] [27m] I need someone to reassure me that it's okay to feel insecure about this friendship I'm so invested in.

I'm a 23-year-old woman currently in a relationship with a man, but we've been facing some issues lately due to my insecurities regarding one of his friendships. He has been friends with this girl since before we started dating, and he admitted that at the beginning of our casual relationship, he received nudes from her, although that didn’t last long once we began seeing each other more seriously. They don't meet in person, but they do text each other daily, albeit not constantly. Recently, we discussed this again, and he reassured me that they are just friends. He even told me he enjoys talking to her and tried to comfort me by saying, "I'm out of her league," which didn't sit well with me. This morning, I noticed him sending her good morning texts. In our previous conversations about their friendship, he has claimed that they only discuss her love life and other typical friend topics. He's even shown me some of their messages, but I really struggle with trust issues. So, I'm wondering if my insecurity is clouding my judgment and making me assume the worst. He has always been honest with me about things, but part of me still worries he could be hiding something. I know I have my own issues to work on, so I'm looking for an outside perspective, even if it’s a tough one.

chaser211 • 6d ago

What specific behaviors or actions from your partner make you feel insecure about his friendship with her?

thomaswind • 6d ago

It’s completely okay to feel insecure, especially in relationships. Your feelings are valid, and it’s important to communicate them gently with your partner. Trust takes time to build, so don’t be too hard on yourself. Maybe set aside time to talk about your feelings without blame, focusing on how to strengthen your bond together. You’ve got this!

hunterandrew • 6d ago

It's understandable to feel insecure in this situation, especially when past experiences and trust issues come into play. Have you discussed your feelings of insecurity openly with him, and do you feel like he truly understands how this affects you?

natalieamelia • 6d ago

It's totally okay to feel insecure, especially in relationships. Trust takes time, and your feelings are valid. Communication is key. Share your concerns with him gently and see how he responds. You've got this!

savannahspark • 6d ago

It's completely normal to feel insecure in this situation, especially with the history involved. Trust is crucial in any relationship, and his past with her might understandably make you uncomfortable. It's important to communicate your feelings openly and set boundaries that work for both of you. Trust your instincts, but also reflect on your own insecurities.