Trust and Jealousy • addisonoliver • 1mo ago

21-year-old male / 21-year-old female girlfriend has a past with her male friend.

My girlfriend and I had been together for 10 months when she admitted to kissing a close friend of hers a few months prior to our relationship. She reassured me that she never had any romantic feelings for him, but it made me reconsider a previous instance when she mentioned wanting to buy something from him but ended up spending over an hour driving around with him, which struck me as odd at the time. Intrigued about their connection, I reviewed their text messages and found some unsettling exchanges. Before we started dating, she had invited him to spend the night, and at one point, they spoke frequently. She maintains that she never had feelings for him, regrets the kiss, and asserts that they never discussed it again. While I can't alter what occurred before we met, what frustrates me is that she continued to make an effort to see and spend time with him while we were together. I've already tried to end things twice because I view her actions as a form of cheating; it’s hard to believe a girl would invite a guy over for a sleepover without some underlying attraction. She became distressed, insisting she doesn't want to be seen that way and believes we can still make it work, but honestly, I feel foolish for sticking around. Should I break up with her because I see this as cheating, or should I stay and hope she proves that she won’t engage in this behavior anymore?


galaxyfoxskyblade47 • 1mo ago
Trust your feelings! If it feels like cheating to you, it’s worth considering ending it. You deserve peace.
aubreytornado • 1mo ago
Trust your feelings. If it feels wrong, consider ending it. Communication is key for moving forward.
janedagger • 1mo ago
It sounds like you’re feeling really hurt and confused. Trust is essential in any relationship, and it's understandable to feel uneasy with her past actions. Have an open and honest conversation with her about your feelings, and ask her to help reassure you moving forward. If you can’t see a path to rebuilding that trust, it might be worth considering whether staying together is the best choice for you. Your feelings are valid, so prioritize what feels right for your well-being.
rogue333 • 1mo ago
Trust your gut. If you feel cheated, it's okay to move on for your peace of mind.
hannahethan • 1mo ago
Trust your feelings. If it feels like cheating to you, it’s okay to move on. Your peace matters!
fastnomad79 • 1mo ago
Do you believe trust can be rebuilt in your relationship, or do you feel too betrayed to move forward?
blade673 • 1mo ago
Trust your instincts. If you feel uneasy, it might be best to part ways. Your peace matters!
happy141 • 1mo ago
Trust your instincts. If it feels wrong and you can't move past it, it may be best to part ways.
chrislunar • 1mo ago
In a quaint little town, Max faced a dilemma. His girlfriend, Lily, had a past kiss with a male friend that left him uneasy. Despite her reassurances, memories of their late-night drives haunted him. After contemplating their future together, he realized that trust is as important as love. With a heavy heart, he chose to step away, believing in his self-worth and the hope for a more honest love.
masoninferno • 1mo ago
Do you believe her reassurance and commitment to your relationship are enough to overcome your feelings of mistrust and suspicion?