Seeking advice regarding my boyfriend, who is 22, as a 23-year-old woman.

Hey everyone, I’m in need of some guidance, and I’d appreciate it if we could keep things supportive. I've been dating a guy for three months, and he has started to exhibit controlling, manipulative, and at times, narcissistic behavior. The first month was great, but now I find it really difficult to be around him. He accuses me of treating him poorly but threatens to harm himself whenever I try to break things off. He claims I don't appreciate what he does for me, even though I've consistently expressed my gratitude. He insists I shouldn’t have friends outside of our relationship and becomes jealous whenever I want to spend time with them, often making up stories to guilt-trip me into letting him tag along. When we go out, he gets angry if I interact with my friends, and he’ll lash out by punching things or yelling, sometimes trying to get us kicked out so I can’t socialize. He also pressures me into intimacy when I’m not interested; it often takes numerous refusals for him to finally back off, which leaves him upset, claiming this is how couples show love. The turning point for me was last night—my friend needed a place to stay, so I offered him my couch. My boyfriend then lied, saying he'd been kicked out of his place and needed to stay with me, but when I confronted him about the lie, he dismissed it, saying he would just go home after all. I truly want to end this relationship. I feel manipulated and gaslit, and I’m beginning to suspect he might be a narcissist. Each time I try to express my concerns, I end up feeling like the bad guy for making him feel hurt, which leads to him crying and bombarding me with messages while I’m trying to rest. I worry that if I attempt to break things off, he could lash out, either at himself or someone I care about, or hold the things he’s bought me over my head. This whole situation is causing me so much stress; I haven’t been sleeping well, and I constantly have headaches and body aches from the tension. I really need some advice. Thank you.

galaxyfox344 • 12d ago

It's tough; your feelings are valid. Prioritize your safety and mental health—seek support!

autumnjane • 12d ago

Have you considered seeking support from friends, family, or a professional to help you navigate the situation and create a safe plan for ending the relationship?

oliverjupiter • 12d ago

It’s crucial to prioritize your well-being and safety. His controlling and manipulative behavior suggests emotional abuse. Trust your instincts—this isn't healthy. Consider seeking professional help or a support group for guidance on safely ending the relationship. Document instances of manipulation and plan your exit carefully to ensure your safety. You deserve a respectful, loving relationship.

aubreyanna • 12d ago

Have you considered reaching out to a trusted friend or family member for support as you navigate this situation?

pathfinderstar91 • 12d ago

It sounds like you're in a very tough and unhealthy relationship. His behavior is manipulative and controlling, which can harm your mental well-being. Prioritize your safety and well-being first. Consider seeking support from trusted friends or professionals. It’s vital to set boundaries and you should feel free to end this relationship without guilt.