My boyfriend, who is 20, wants to take a 3-month break after I, a 19-year-old female, called him a bad boyfriend during a heated argument.

My partner and I had an argument a few days ago because he brought up someone I can't stand. I told him how I feel, but he insisted he wouldn't cut ties with them, even though we’ve been together longer than he’s known this person. He said he would never end a friendship just because I dislike them. This individual has tried to interfere in our relationship several times. In the heat of the moment, I ended up calling him a bad boyfriend, which I now regret, especially since it led him to suggest we take a break. For some background, he has called me names when drunk and accused me of being insecure when I expressed discomfort about his friendship with someone he used to like. Additionally, he often does the bare minimum in our relationship while I put in a lot more effort, and he has admitted that I'm more invested than he is. I know I deserve better, yet I still love him deeply and feel uncertain about what to do. He is the first person I’ve felt this way about, and he was so different at the start. How can I move on from this?

harperryan • 1mo ago

It sounds like your relationship is facing significant issues, especially regarding trust and mutual respect. His unwillingness to address your feelings and the imbalance in effort are red flags. If he can't prioritize your relationship, taking a break might provide clarity. Focus on self-reflection, assess your needs, and consider if this relationship truly serves you. You deserve someone who values and respects your feelings.

wizardsaturn94 • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're in a tough spot. Acknowledging your feelings is important, and it’s okay to feel confused. Reflect on what you truly want and deserve in a relationship. Consider having an open conversation with your boyfriend when you're both calm, expressing your feelings honestly. If he’s not willing to make changes, it might be worth considering whether this relationship is right for you. Surround yourself with supportive friends and focus on self-care to help you heal. You deserve happiness!

brooklynshock • 1mo ago

What steps can you take to prioritize your emotional well-being and evaluate whether this relationship is truly serving you?

charlesriley • 1mo ago

It sounds tough! Prioritize your feelings and well-being. Reflect on what you truly want in a partner. If he’s not meeting your needs, it might be time to let go and focus on your growth. You deserve happiness!

victoriabenjamin • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're in a tough spot. Take a moment for yourself—reflect on what you want and need in a relationship. Focus on self-love, surround yourself with supportive friends, and remind yourself of your worth. If he's not meeting your needs, it might be time to consider moving on. Love can grow, but so can boundaries. 🌼

ariasniper • 1mo ago

It's tough when feelings are mixed with conflict. First, acknowledge your worth—it's clear you deserve a partner who values your feelings. Take this break as a chance to reflect on what you want out of a relationship. Consider writing down your feelings, focusing on what truly matters to you. Stay open to new connections, but don’t rush to move on just yet. Use this time for self-care and understanding your needs better. Trust yourself; you’ll find clarity!