I'm a 19-year-old guy dating a 29-year-old man who is currently going through a divorce and doesn't know how to advance our relationship toward something more serious. What should I do?

Hey everyone, I've been a long-time lurker here, and I've finally decided to post because I'm looking for some help and advice. I apologize if this isn't the typical scenario for this subreddit, as I know it mainly caters to straight couples and long-term relationships. Unfortunately, my parents, who are conservative Christians, aren't really the type I can discuss these things with. So here’s the situation: I’m 19 and just started university after taking a gap year, which, looking back, may not have been the best idea. Here's the scoop: I met this guy online, and we've hung out a few times in person, going on some nice dates. However, we have to act like just friends in public. He’s 29, and I understand that could raise eyebrows. I really like him, though, and he treats me well. We’ve spent a lot of time together, and he’s never pressured me into anything sexual, which makes me feel at ease since I'm inexperienced. Our situationship is about to hit the 6-month mark, and he’s suggested a two-day getaway at a hotel or cabin, which I think sounds lovely. But I have two significant concerns that I’d appreciate your insight on: 1. **The Big Issue**: He mentioned two weeks ago that he’s married and going through a divorce. He claims he’s separated and living apart from his wife, but he’s never invited me over to his place. I’m at a loss as to how to navigate this. I really didn’t expect to deal with this complication! 2. **A More Personal Matter**: He has sent me some intimate photos, and while I’m curious to explore that side of things, I have very limited experience. I've sort of practiced on a banana (don’t judge—I had to try!), but I really want to impress him with my skills. I know he isn’t exclusive and has been honest about seeing other people, which makes me think he might worry about my abilities. I want to prove to him that I can satisfy him. I’ve lightly brought up the idea of a long-term, monogamous relationship, and he seemed open and even excited about it. However, he emphasized wanting to handle things correctly with his ex-wife first and suggested I settle into college. He said once he’s fully single, we can explore a serious relationship with future plans. Am I being naïve to believe him? 3. **General Concerns**: Do you think it’s realistic to expect him to leave his wife for me? I hate that I’m developing feelings for him, and I’m unsure if he’ll truly take that step. I want to be the kind of partner he needs right now, but I’m shy and not the most outgoing person. Still, he laughs at my jokes and genuinely cares for me. What are your thoughts? If you need any more details, feel free to ask!