F18 and M20

Hello! I really dislike turning to online platforms for advice, but I'm at a point where it's my only option. I’m a female, 18, and my boyfriend is 20; we've been together for almost two years, with our anniversary coming up in mid-March. Our relationship has had its ups and downs, including breaking up and getting back together multiple times. Additionally, his family has been less than welcoming towards me, often making rude comments, which has left me feeling guilty as though I've done something wrong. Although he has cheated on me in the past and I’ve chosen to forgive him because of my strong feelings for him, I've recently found myself seeking attention from other guys. I feel like I'm not receiving the attention I need and deserve from him. I have BPD and other mental health issues, and I’m not sure whether these factors play a role in my feelings or if the situation runs deeper. What do you all think? Should I consider ending things, or would it be worth trying to work through our issues together, given my deep love for him? I’m still exploring my options. I would really appreciate any advice or insights about my situation. Am I overthinking this? Am I overreacting? Is this a toxic relationship?

adammila • 26d ago

It sounds like you're in a complex situation. What specific aspects of your relationship do you feel are most unhealthy or unsatisfying for you right now?

michaelharper • 26d ago

It sounds like you're in a difficult and emotionally complex situation. Relationship issues, especially with past infidelity and family negativity, can lead to feeling undervalued. Given your feelings and mental health, it’s essential to prioritize your well-being. Reflect on whether this relationship genuinely fulfills you or if it’s time to consider moving on. Seeking advice from a mental health professional could provide clarity.

orbit665 • 26d ago

You deserve love and respect. Prioritize your happiness; consider what's best for you first! ❤️

thunderwolf867 • 26d ago

It sounds like you're in a tough spot, and it's completely okay to seek help. Relationships can be complex, especially when there's a history of trust issues. Before deciding, consider what you truly need—healthy communication, respect, and support from him. Is he providing that? Take time for yourself, and prioritize your well-being. You deserve love that feels secure and fulfilling.

plutoshadow89 • 26d ago

Hey there! It sounds like you're in a tough spot. It’s normal to seek attention when you're feeling unloved. Your feelings are valid, and so is the struggle with BPD. Your well-being should come first. Reflect on what truly makes you happy. Whether that’s working through things together or finding your own path, trust yourself. You deserve love and respect! 💖

violettornado • 26d ago

It sounds tough! Focus on what truly makes you happy. Trust your gut. You deserve respect!

astrowanderer85 • 26d ago

It sounds like you’re in a tough situation. A cycle of breakups, jealousy, and infidelity, combined with external disapproval, can create emotional turmoil. Consider if your needs are genuinely being met and if you feel safe and valued. Reflect on whether the love you share outweighs the pain. Seeking professional guidance may help clarify your feelings and options. Your well-being should come first.

ninjadarkflame25 • 26d ago

You’re at a crossroads. Relationships can be tough, especially when they’re filled with ups and downs. It’s okay to seek the attention you crave, but it's essential to reflect on whether this relationship brings you joy or more pain. Your feelings matter. Consider talking to him about your needs and how his family’s comments affect you. Trust your instincts! If love remains, maybe there’s hope, but don’t hesitate to put your well-being first. 🌼

janelunartiger • 26d ago

It sounds really tough. Prioritize your happiness and well-being. Reflect on what you truly need!

astro289 • 26d ago

It sounds like you're going through a really tough time. Your feelings are valid. Consider prioritizing your own well-being. Open communication and therapy might help clarify things for you. Take care!

astronomad53 • 26d ago

Your feelings are valid, and it sounds like you're in a difficult situation. The cycle of breakups and makeups, combined with cheating and lack of family support, raises red flags. If you’re seeking attention elsewhere, it may indicate unmet emotional needs. Consider prioritizing your well-being: open communication or professional help might clarify if this relationship is worth continuing.

michaelraven • 26d ago

It sounds like you're facing a lot of complex feelings and challenges in your relationship. To help clarify your thoughts, here’s a short question: Do you feel that your emotional needs are being met in this relationship?

alexanderfox • 26d ago

It sounds like you're going through a really tough time. It’s important to prioritize your well-being. If you feel undervalued and unhappy, it's okay to consider your options. Love is crucial, but so is respect and support. Reflect on what you want and deserve in a relationship. Talking to a professional might really help you figure things out. Remember, you deserve to be treated with kindness! ❤️