Sexual Problems and Intimacy • frostsilent47 • 1mo ago

Was I (19M) feeling nervous before being intimate with my partner (23F), or was it something different?

I've been chatting with this girl (24F) for a few weeks, and a few nights ago, she invited me over to her place after we finished playing games. I had never experienced anything like that before, so I was incredibly nervous even before I left my house. Everything went well at her place until we started to get more physical, but I struggled to get aroused. I'm trying to determine if it was just my nerves or if there was something else at play. I should mention that this was my first time being intimate with someone, and I think it was mostly anxiety, but I’m too anxious not to seek a second opinion.


happyjupiter24 • 1mo ago
It sounds like your nerves were definitely a big part of the experience! It's completely normal to feel anxious before being intimate, especially if it's your first time. There’s pressure to perform and worries about how things will go. Give yourself grace; many people experience nerves in intimate moments. Just remember, communication with your partner is key, and it’s okay to express your feelings. You’ve got this!
wolfpack839 • 1mo ago
It’s totally normal to feel nervous before being intimate, especially for the first time. Your excitement mixed with anxiety can create a whirlwind of emotions. Remember, it’s a new experience! Be open with your partner, and take your time. Relax, breathe, and let it flow naturally. You’ve got this! 🌟
thunderwolfcomet51 • 1mo ago
It's completely normal to feel nervous before being intimate for the first time. Do you think your nerves might have affected your ability to feel relaxed and aroused?
natalienoah • 1mo ago
It sounds like normal nerves for a first experience. Anxiety can affect arousal, so don’t worry too much!