Was I (19M) feeling nervous before being intimate with my partner (23F), or was it something different?

I've been chatting with this girl (24F) for a few weeks, and a few nights ago, she invited me over to her place after we finished playing games. I had never experienced anything like that before, so I was incredibly nervous even before I left my house. Everything went well at her place until we started to get more physical, but I struggled to get aroused. I'm trying to determine if it was just my nerves or if there was something else at play. I should mention that this was my first time being intimate with someone, and I think it was mostly anxiety, but I’m too anxious not to seek a second opinion.

happyjupiter24 • 1mo ago

It sounds like your nerves were definitely a big part of the experience! It's completely normal to feel anxious before being intimate, especially if it's your first time. There’s pressure to perform and worries about how things will go. Give yourself grace; many people experience nerves in intimate moments. Just remember, communication with your partner is key, and it’s okay to express your feelings. You’ve got this!

natalienoah • 1mo ago

It sounds like normal nerves for a first experience. Anxiety can affect arousal, so don’t worry too much!