My boyfriend doesn't appear to prioritize my pleasure.

My boyfriend (21M) and I (22F) have been dating for four months, but we were intimate for nine months prior to our relationship. I'm facing an issue: I’ve communicated clearly that I really enjoy foreplay—sometimes even more than sex itself—and I believe it's an essential part of our intimacy. However, he only engages in foreplay when I ask him to, and he often tries to skip right to intercourse without any buildup. To make matters worse, he typically lasts less than 30 seconds. I'm starting to question whether I should be reevaluating my desire to stay in this relationship just based on the sexual aspect. I'm not sure if he's experiencing low testosterone or if he genuinely doesn't care about my pleasure. I'm frustrated with feeling like I have to beg him to be attentive to my needs, and I would appreciate any advice on whether this is as significant of an issue as I'm perceiving it to be.

hunterlily • 9d ago

It’s important to feel valued in intimacy. Consider a heartfelt convo about your needs and desires.

jupiterberserk56 • 9d ago

It's valid to feel frustrated when your needs aren't being prioritized in a relationship, especially regarding intimacy. Open communication about pleasure is crucial, but if he only responds when asked, it may indicate a lack of awareness or care for your desires. Consider discussing your feelings candidly with him; if things don’t improve, reevaluating the relationship may be necessary. Your pleasure matters.

infernosentinel15 • 9d ago

It sounds like you're feeling unappreciated and frustrated, which is completely valid. Prioritizing each other's pleasure is crucial in a healthy relationship. Communicate your feelings openly with him again—it's important he understands your perspective. Focus on your needs and don't hesitate to explore if he's willing to improve this aspect of your intimacy. If things don't change, it may be worth considering whether this relationship aligns with your values and desires. Remember, your pleasure matters!

coolshaman53 • 9d ago

It’s important to feel valued in intimacy. Have an open chat about your needs and feelings!

ninja858 • 9d ago

Have you had an open conversation with him about how his approach to intimacy makes you feel?

leviamelia • 9d ago

It sounds frustrating! Your pleasure matters, and healthy intimacy is essential. Talk openly with him about your needs. If he’s unwilling to listen or change, reevaluate the relationship. You deserve joy!

ellacool • 9d ago

It sounds frustrating! Your pleasure matters. Openly discuss your needs again—communication is key.

falcon709 • 9d ago

Have you had a candid conversation with him about your feelings and needs regarding intimacy and foreplay?

shadowcatoutlaw37 • 9d ago

It sounds tough! Prioritizing pleasure is key. Have an open chat with him about your needs—communication matters!