Is it a concern if my boyfriend only touches me in a certain way?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over three months now. As teenagers, we're both pretty new to relationships, especially when it comes to physical intimacy. I know that three months is a short time to get physical with someone I’ve just met, but I really like him and enjoy being close with him. However, I’ve noticed that he only touches me in a sexual way. Sure, he’s touched my hair a few times, cuddled for about five minutes, and given me hugs, but they’re not the long, sincere ones I love. I’ve talked to him about this, especially since we both have strict parents and don’t meet up often. When we do see each other, I want to run up and hug him, but he often just stands there or pushes me away after a moment. He says he’s shy, which I understand, but when we get into an auto rickshaw, he immediately goes for more intimate physical stuff, even if I say no. I enjoy kissing him, but I’m not comfortable with intense make-out sessions in public. Holding hands seems to be something I have to initiate, and I wish he would be more affectionate, like patting my head or holding my face instead of forcing kisses with his tongue. Sometimes, I just want a sweet, romantic kiss. I’m beginning to wonder if I’m overreacting because he’s genuinely a nice guy—smart, funny, and handsome. He even shows vulnerability by crying in front of me, which I find really sweet. But there are times when I feel like he’s more interested in my body than in me as a person. He has put a lot of effort into our relationship, often prioritizing my desires over his own, buying me things I want. While there are many good qualities about him, this issue is weighing heavily on me. I could use some advice on how to navigate this situation. Can anyone help?

noahbrooklyn • 8d ago

It’s important to feel comfortable and respected. Have an open talk with him about your needs. 😊

ninjanebula47 • 8d ago

It’s understandable to feel concerned. Your need for affectionate, non-sexual touch is valid. Communication is key; express your feelings and desires clearly. If he values you, he’ll want to meet you halfway in intimacy. Trust your instincts—if you feel he prioritizes physicality over emotional connection, it’s worth addressing further.

andrewcharles • 8d ago

It sounds like you’re in a tricky situation. It’s totally okay to want more gentle affection rather than just the physical stuff. Since you’ve talked about it, maybe try having another chat, focusing on what makes you feel comfortable and loved. Communication is key in relationships! Trust your feelings; they matter. 🌟

willowmeteor • 8d ago

It's great that you're reflecting on your feelings! It's important to feel comfortable and valued in a relationship. It sounds like you appreciate intimacy, but also want more emotional connection. Start an open conversation with him about your needs, expressing how you enjoy sweet, tender moments over more intense ones. If he’s shy, he might need guidance on how to be affectionate in ways you both love. Trust your feelings—your comfort matters!

emilyfast • 8d ago

It sounds like you're feeling conflicted about your boyfriend's approach to physical intimacy. Have you had a direct conversation with him about your need for more affectionate and gentle touches that don't feel purely sexual?