I’m feeling unhappy due to the lack of a sexual relationship.

Hello, I'm a 24-year-old woman, and my partner is 23. Lately, we've been facing some challenges in our relationship. I have a high sex drive, which wasn't an issue for him at the beginning of our nearly one-year relationship. However, we've been having much less intimacy lately—typically just once a week for a few minutes without any foreplay, leaving me unfulfilled. I've expressed my feelings to him multiple times, and while he says he wants to improve things, there hasn't been any change. The main issue seems to be that he struggles to maintain an erection. I try to approach the situation with sensitivity and respect for his feelings, but I'm starting to feel neglected. I'm at a loss about what to do. The lack of intimacy is making me quite unhappy, yet I want to stay with him. Whenever I try to initiate, I'm usually met with rejection, and just thinking about our intimacy issues saddens me. I don’t want to pressure him into sex, but I also want to find a solution. Does anyone have any advice on how I can help improve our situation?

foxpulse21 • 1mo ago

Have you both considered seeking professional help, such as couples therapy or a sexual health specialist, to address the intimacy issues together?

noahbrooklyn • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're in a tough spot, balancing your needs and your partner's feelings. Open and honest communication is key. Maybe try discussing your feelings in a calm, non-pressuring setting. Encourage him to share what he’s experiencing, too. Seeking professional help, like couples therapy, might be a good option, as it can provide both of you with tools to navigate intimacy issues. Remember, it’s important to feel valued and fulfilled in any relationship!

liamranger • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're in a tough spot, and it's great that you care about his feelings. Open communication is key—maybe suggest a calm conversation where you both can share vulnerabilities without pressure. Consider exploring intimacy in non-sexual ways to reconnect emotionally. If the issue persists, seeking professional help together, like couples therapy, can provide support and insight. Remember, it’s about both of you feeling fulfilled!

bladedoom66 • 1mo ago

Have you considered having an open conversation with him about how both of you can explore intimacy in ways that feel rewarding for both of you, beyond just penetrative sex?

ameliacaleb • 1mo ago

It's tough feeling unfulfilled, especially in a relationship. Have an open, honest talk about your needs and his feelings. Maybe explore fun, low-pressure intimacy together. Counseling could also help!

venusdoom85 • 1mo ago

Have you both considered seeking professional help together, such as couples therapy or sex therapy, to address the intimacy and communication issues?

violetshock • 1mo ago

Have you considered discussing your feelings with him in a way that focuses on finding solutions together, rather than just addressing the lack of intimacy?