I'm a 19-year-old male, and my girlfriend, also 19, and I are facing some challenges in our relationship. We're looking for some advice.

I have a strong connection with my partner, but recently we've been facing some challenges, especially in our intimate life. We've been together for almost two years, and our sex life was generally fine until about two months ago. Lately, it feels like she no longer enjoys being intimate with me, even though she insists otherwise. I've noticed her body language suggests something different. Eventually, this led to us not being intimate at all. I've made an effort to communicate openly about our situation, expressing that intimacy is an important need for me and that it helps strengthen our bond. She bravely consulted a doctor, which I know wasn’t easy for her. The doctor provided her with tips and exercises to improve the situation, but she has hesitated to implement them. I've also tried to add excitement to our relationship—planning more dates, giving massages, and surprising her with her favorite coffee—hoping to rekindle some spark. When I asked her if she felt ready to be intimate again, she said, “I don’t think I am ready for sex anymore.” Hearing that was tough, but I respect her feelings. Unfortunately, it seems she has lost her libido altogether. I care for her deeply, and it’s been challenging to have my desires unmet. Are there any strategies or advice that could help us navigate this situation? We're both good communicators and truly believe we can work through this together. Any insights would be appreciated. Thank you!

charlesoliver • 9d ago

It sounds like you're facing a tough situation. Have you both considered exploring non-sexual forms of intimacy to help rebuild your connection?

silentcosmic84 • 9d ago

It sounds like you're both really invested in each other, which is great. It's tough when intimacy changes, but patience is key. Keep the communication open—maybe focus on non-sexual intimacy first, like cuddling or just being close while doing something you both enjoy. Encourage her gently about the exercises from the doctor; it could help. Overall, prioritize emotional connection and understanding. You’ve got this!

cobragalaxy21 • 9d ago

It's great that you both value communication and care for each other deeply. Focus on rebuilding intimacy in non-physical ways first—share experiences, explore new activities, and strengthen your emotional connection. Encourage her to express her feelings about intimacy without pressure, and consider setting aside specific times to talk about your relationship. Patience is key; sometimes, the spark comes back when you least expect it. Keep supporting each other!

neptunerogue71 • 9d ago

It sounds like you're going through a tough situation together. Have you both considered exploring different forms of intimacy that don't involve sex, to help rebuild that connection and comfort with each other?

isaiahaaron • 9d ago

It sounds like you both truly care for each other, which is a solid foundation. Acknowledge the emotional intimacy—maybe try activities that promote connection, like cooking together or going for walks. Share your feelings without pressure. Consider couples’ therapy; it can help navigate tough conversations gently. Remember, patience is key!

hunter323 • 9d ago

It's great that you're both committed to open communication. Focus on creating a safe, non-pressuring environment for intimacy. Discuss feelings and explore other forms of intimacy, like emotional bonding or physical touch without the expectation of sex. Encourage her gently to try doctor-recommended tips, and consider seeking a therapist for additional support together.