I (26, male) and my girlfriend (22, female) had an important discussion yesterday regarding our sex life, and I'm uncertain about the next steps to take.

Hey Reddit! My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half, and generally, everything's been wonderful. However, our sex life has consistently fallen short since the beginning. I have a high libido and enjoy being adventurous, while she tends to be more reserved. Yesterday, I found myself unable to maintain an erection because I was reflecting on how much oral pleasure I give her compared to how rarely I receive it in return. Her handjobs don't really meet my needs either, as her grip is quite gentle, and despite my efforts to communicate what I enjoy, nothing seems to change. She ended up in tears because we've only had sex twice this month. I explained that this was partly due to the fact that I sometimes find the experience unenjoyable since I rarely receive oral and it feels like I’m putting in more effort than she is. She expressed that she doesn't enjoy giving blowjobs and is trying her best with her handjobs, but the situation remains frustrating. To be fair, I can easily bring her to climax without any toys, but I've never reached climax through her handjobs or the rare times she does give oral. I'm uncertain about how to move forward, especially since we just relocated to a new city together. I love her and appreciate her personality, but I can't shake off the concern that our sex life is the biggest issue in our relationship. She asked if I compare our sex life to previous relationships, and while I told her I don’t, the truth is that I do, and I feel guilty about it. I miss having fulfilling sex. Today, after she stayed over, things have felt a bit off between us.