Sexual Problems and Intimacy • drifterpathfinder24 • 7d ago

I [21F] pretended to have an orgasm with the guy I'm seeing [24M]. Should I be honest with him about it? If so, how should I approach the conversation?

I've been seeing this guy since December 2025, and we've been intimate on several occasions. I find it difficult to reach orgasm because of my anti-anxiety medication, which means I don't climax as often as I'd like. Recently, he mentioned that he wants to help me achieve orgasm more frequently since it has only happened once, and he feels a bit of an imbalance since he finishes much more often than I do. He suggested that we should work together to figure out what works for me next time. When that opportunity came, I thought I had expressed what I desired clearly enough, but I still couldn’t reach orgasm. Not wanting to make things uncomfortable or awkward, I ended up faking an orgasm to bring things to a close. Now, I feel guilty about not being truthful and for not communicating effectively. I'm unsure if I should bring it up with him—I don’t want to create tension in our relationship since sex is significant for both of us, but I also don’t want to let him down.


josephviolet • 7d ago
Being honest is best! Share your feelings openly; it’ll strengthen your bond. You got this!
bearpluto99 • 7d ago
It’s great that you’re being reflective about this! Honesty is key in any relationship, especially regarding intimacy. You could gently bring it up by saying that you appreciate his desire to help but that you sometimes struggle due to your medication. Express that you faked it out of concern for his feelings, but you really want to communicate openly going forward. This conversation can strengthen your bond and lead to a more fulfilling experience for both of you!
falcon656 • 7d ago
How do you feel about discussing your feelings and the challenges you face with intimacy in the relationship?