Sexual Problems and Intimacy • skybladeberserk86 • 1mo ago

How to gain certainty

I've been in a long-distance relationship with my partner for four years now. He’s living with friends about two and a half hours away, while I’m at home with my parents. I struggle with severe mental health issues and autism, which has affected my sex drive lately—I find myself lacking interest, while he seems to want it more than I can handle. When he visits, he tends to be quite insistent about sex, despite me communicating my struggles. This pressure creates a lot of anxiety around sexual activity, and we often end up fighting instead of enjoying our time together. I truly love him, but it feels like we’re both wanting aspects of each other that aren't attainable. I’m at a crossroads, uncertain whether this relationship is what I truly want or if I’m genuinely happy. I enjoy our time together when he’s not bringing up sex, but that happiness quickly turns into conflict. I’m dreading the thought of breaking up, yet I feel so confused. How do I determine the right path forward?


elijahgrace • 1mo ago
It sounds like you’re in a really tough spot, and it’s totally okay to feel confused. Try having an open and heartfelt conversation with your partner about your needs and anxieties. Prioritize your mental health and feelings. Remember, it’s alright to take time to figure out what truly makes you happy. You deserve a relationship that feels good for both of you!
milaisaiah • 1mo ago
What specific aspects of your relationship bring you happiness when sex isn't a focus?
charleswraith • 1mo ago
Hey there! Communication is key. Share your feelings with him openly; it might ease the pressure. ❤️