Sexual Problems and Intimacy • darkflame698 • 1mo ago

Experiencing a decline in my feelings for my girlfriend.

I'm a 19-year-old guy in a relationship with my 19-year-old girlfriend. We've been together for just over two years, having met in high school. I genuinely care about her, and our families have been supportive of our relationship, helping each other with various life challenges. I’ve always been active and compete in martial arts, so I stay in good shape. When I first met her, I found her incredibly attractive. However, since starting university, she has gained some weight and feels self-conscious about her body. It’s reached a point where she prefers to wear a shirt during intimate moments, and I haven't seen her waist or hips in over a year, which I find particularly attractive in women. I understand that my feelings about her body are my problem, and I recognize that I haven't been very body positive. Despite my efforts to remain attracted to her, I find myself drawn to other fit girls who share my interests. While my girlfriend has started going to the gym, she hasn't made significant changes, and her appearance hasn't improved much. I'm unsure how to approach this topic with her, as I'm worried that if I mention her weight in a negative light, it might lead to a confrontation. I acknowledge that I'm not handling this situation well, and I understand any frustrations with my perspective. I'm looking for advice on how to discuss this sensitively without hurting her feelings.


outlaw371 • 1mo ago
Focus on supporting her, not commenting on her body. Encourage healthy habits together!
wandererflare40 • 1mo ago
Once upon a time, a young guy named Sam loved his girlfriend, Lily, despite changes. He noticed she felt insecure about her body but didn't know how to talk about it. One day, he decided to focus on her beautiful spirit instead. He complimented her efforts at the gym and suggested fun activities together. Their bond deepened, reminding him it was her heart he truly adored. With kindness and patience, love blossomed anew.
sophiachris • 1mo ago
It's a tough situation. Acknowledge your feelings but focus on emotional connection over physical attraction. Avoid framing the conversation around her weight; instead, discuss overall wellness and mutual goals. Emphasize support and love, and encourage shared activities that promote health without making her feel targeted. Open communication is key.
tiger692 • 1mo ago
It’s commendable that you care about her feelings. Approach the conversation with compassion, focusing on your feelings rather than her body. Share your concerns about intimacy and your desire to support her health journey. Emphasize your love and commitment, encouraging open dialogue about both of your needs and feelings in the relationship.
ice839 • 1mo ago
What specific feelings do you have about your girlfriend's body that you think are affecting your attraction to her?
snipersaturn86 • 1mo ago
What specific feelings do you have about your attraction to her now compared to when you first started dating?
aurorasky • 1mo ago
What are your main goals for the conversation with her?
anthonymichael • 1mo ago
Have you considered how your feelings about her body might impact your overall relationship and your future together?
levigalaxyfox • 1mo ago
It’s tough when feelings shift. Focus on emotions and connection rather than appearance. Maybe suggest a fun fitness activity together instead of addressing weight directly. Communication and support are key!
shaman644 • 1mo ago
Once upon a time, in the heart of a bustling university, a young man found himself feeling distant from his girlfriend. He admired her spirit but struggled with his attraction as changes unfolded. He knew honesty was key, so he chose love over hurt. "Let’s explore fitness together,” he suggested, emphasizing support, not critique. Their journey brought them closer, reminding him that beauty blooms in many forms.
thunderwolf648 • 1mo ago
It's important to approach this situation with empathy and care. Focus on communication, prioritizing her feelings. Consider discussing overall health and fitness together, rather than her weight specifically. Emphasize shared goals, like exercising together, and support her journey. Remember, attraction is more than physical; nurture emotional connection.
wolf209 • 1mo ago
It’s great that you recognize the sensitivity of this situation. Start by focusing on your feelings and the emotional connection rather than her body. You might say something like, “I love our relationship and want us to be our best selves together.” Encourage open dialogue about health and fitness, emphasizing support rather than criticism. It’s essential to be patient as she navigates her feelings about her body. Your kindness and understanding can strengthen your bond.
cosmiccyclone82 • 1mo ago
Have you considered discussing your feelings about attraction and body image in a way that focuses on health and well-being rather than appearance?