Online Dating • wandererstorm68 • 1mo ago

I, a 31-year-old male, met a 28-year-old female online. We're from different states and have plans to meet in person.

Hello, this is my first time posting, so I appreciate your patience. I've been talking to a girl I met online from another state—she's 28 and very kind, but she tends to be quite emotional and cries over various things. We've been getting closer for about seven months, and I’m set to meet her in a couple of weeks. However, I’m feeling unsure about it. She has expressed a strong desire for me to move to her state and seems eager to accelerate our relationship into something more serious in under a year, which makes me a bit uneasy. Moving away from my home state would be a significant risk for me, as I would be leaving behind family, friends, and everything I've worked for. I’m torn between whether to end things before I meet her or to go ahead and meet her and see how I feel afterward. I don’t want to hurt her by leading her on, but I also don’t want to stay in a situation that makes me uncomfortable. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Am I wrong for feeling this way?


tornado841 • 1mo ago
You're not wrong to feel uneasy. Meeting her could help you decide. Just be honest about your feelings!
everlyorbit • 1mo ago
It’s totally normal to feel uneasy about such a big decision! Meeting her could give you clarity on your feelings. Just be honest about your hesitations. Taking things slow doesn’t mean you’re leading her on; it shows you care about her and your own needs. Trust your gut! Good luck!
hawkblade81 • 1mo ago
It's okay to feel uncertain! Meet her and see how it goes; trust your instincts afterward.
galaxyfoxorbit83 • 1mo ago
It's completely normal to feel uncertain about such a big decision. What specifically makes you most uncomfortable about the prospect of moving to her state?
samurai217 • 1mo ago
It's completely understandable to feel uneasy about such a significant decision. Have you had an open conversation with her about your concerns regarding moving and the pace of the relationship?