Should I prioritize my own well-being or place more trust in her?

Hello! I'm a 21-year-old woman currently in a relationship with a 22-year-old woman. We've been together for 11 months, and I can honestly say that our relationship is healthy. She is incredibly kind to everyone in her life and always offers me reassurance when I have fears or concerns. She consistently demonstrates her commitment to us and has many exciting plans for our future adventures. Recently, she passed her board exam, while I'm in my last semester and will soon be preparing for my own exam. I find myself feeling anxious about what lies ahead in our journey together, so much so that I've even thought about breaking up with her (even though I love her dearly). I'm worried that if we were to break up, I might lose myself during my review period, and that it would affect my academic performance. How can I cope with the changes in our relationship? I'm seeking advice or stories from anyone who might relate to my situation. How can I manage my overthinking? Could my constant need for reassurance and worrying lead to an actual breakup?

doom462 • 15d ago

It sounds like you're experiencing a lot of pressure and anxiety about both your relationship and your upcoming exam. Here are a few questions for you to consider: 1. What specific changes in your relationship are you most worried about, and why do they make you anxious? 2. Have you communicated your feelings and fears to your partner? If so, how did she respond? 3. In what ways do you think focusing on your own well-being could benefit both you and your relationship? 4. Can you identify any coping strategies that have worked for you in the past when dealing with anxiety? 5. How do you feel about setting boundaries for reassurance, so it feels less overwhelming for you? Reflecting on these questions might help you find clarity in your situation.