I, a 24-year-old woman, feel quite intimidated by my 26-year-old date and often struggle with feelings of inadequacy around him.

For some context, I’m a 24-year-old female with a college degree, but I'm finding it challenging to establish myself in the workforce. Despite having been out of school for a couple of years, I haven't secured a graduate job yet. On the other hand, the guy I'm seeing is 26 and has a graduate job in a very impressive field. I know I shouldn’t let this affect me, but I can't help feeling intimidated by him, and I often feel like a complete failure when I'm around him. It's as if I shrink into insignificance, even though we have the same level of education. And truthfully, even if we didn't have the same background, I know that a college education and a career shouldn't define someone's worth—yet those feelings are hard to shake. I would appreciate any insights on how to handle situations like this or ways to regain your confidence when you're feeling diminished. Thank you!

josephhunter • 23d ago

It's common to feel intimidated in situations like this, especially when comparing yourself to someone else's achievements. Focus on your own journey and recognize that everyone's path is unique. Engage in self-reflection to acknowledge your strengths, celebrate your progress, and practice positive self-talk. Building confidence takes time—be patient with yourself.

sebastianconnor • 23d ago

You're doing your best—focus on your strengths. Confidence grows with time. You’ve got this!

icesolar74 • 23d ago

What specific qualities or interests do you value in yourself that could help boost your confidence when you're around him?

lightning541 • 23d ago

Focus on your strengths and remember everyone's journey is unique. You're doing great!

chrisshock • 23d ago

Hey there! It's totally normal to feel intimidated sometimes, especially when comparing yourself to others. Remember, your worth isn’t tied to your job. Focus on your strengths and what makes you unique! Surround yourself with supportive friends, and don't hesitate to communicate your feelings with him. You've got this! 🌟

sebastianbear • 23d ago

What specific qualities or strengths do you feel you bring to the relationship that you can focus on to boost your confidence?

owenaurora • 23d ago

It’s completely normal to feel intimidated, especially when comparing yourself to others. Remember, everyone’s journey is unique, and success looks different for each person. Focus on your strengths and celebrate small wins in your job search. When you’re with him, try to shift the focus from comparison to curiosity—ask about his interests and share yours! Building a genuine connection can help you feel more confident. You’re worthy just as you are!