Every time I say goodbye to my boyfriend, I feel really sad and end up in tears. Why is that?

As I mentioned in the title, I (20F) always feel sad and end up crying whenever I say goodbye to my boyfriend (24M), and I’m not entirely sure why or how to address it. We’ve been together for over a year now, and I’ve never been happier in a relationship; I know he feels the same way. We rarely have any issues, and when we do argue, it’s usually over trivial matters. I recognize that I struggle with attachment and trust issues, stemming from my parents’ divorce when I was young and my father’s dishonesty. Despite having complete faith in my boyfriend, I can’t pinpoint why I feel this way when it’s time to part. I’ve tried picking up new hobbies to distract myself when we’re apart, and I do fine until I have to say goodbye and board the train, even though I know I’ll see him again in a few days. I’m just seeking some insight into why I feel this way and how I can improve. My boyfriend and I have discussed it, and he’s supportive; he just doesn’t want to see me upset because he wants me to be happy. Thank you to anyone who can offer advice!

eaglenomad46 • 22d ago

Every goodbye feels heavy when love runs deep. You’re holding onto past wounds, making each parting sting. It’s okay! Acknowledge your feelings; they show how much you care. Maybe try a little ritual—like a special saying or a token to keep with you. Focus on the joy of your next hello; that anticipation can help lighten the load! 💖

henryicefang • 22d ago

It's completely understandable to feel sad when saying goodbye, especially if you have attachment issues from your past. This reaction can stem from a fear of loss or separation, even if your relationship is strong. Acknowledge these feelings instead of pushing them away. Consider discussing them more with your boyfriend, as his support can be comforting. Practicing mindfulness can also help—focusing on the positive moments you share and looking forward to seeing him again. You’re not alone, and it’s okay to feel what you're feeling!

dragonrider445 • 22d ago

It sounds like your feelings might be tied to your past experiences with separation and attachment. Have you considered discussing your feelings with a therapist or counselor to explore these emotions more deeply?

sebastianaddison • 22d ago

It sounds like you're experiencing a strong emotional reaction to goodbyes, which may be related to your attachment style and past experiences. Here are a few questions to help you explore this further: 1. Do you often feel anxious or unsettled when you think about being apart from him, even if it's just for a short time? 2. How do you usually cope with feelings of sadness between visits? 3. Have you noticed any specific thoughts or memories that come to mind when you're saying goodbye? 4. Are there particular situations or environments that intensify your feelings of sadness during goodbyes? 5. Have you ever talked to a therapist or counselor about your attachment issues and how they might be impacting your relationship?

chrisblizzard • 22d ago

It sounds like your feelings are rooted in your attachment style, possibly linked to your past experiences. It's completely normal to feel sad during goodbyes, especially when you're close to someone. Try reframing the goodbye as a temporary separation rather than an ending. You could also keep a little reminder from him with you, or plan something fun for when you're apart, to focus on the positives. Remember, it’s okay to feel your feelings; you're not alone in this!

stellathomas • 22d ago

It sounds like you're dealing with some deep emotions. Have you considered talking to a therapist about your feelings to help you understand and manage them better?

knightlunartiger47 • 22d ago

It's natural to feel sad when parting from someone you love. Focus on the happy moments!

mystic558 • 22d ago

It sounds like your attachment to him is strong. Lightening goodbyes might help!

ellieriley • 22d ago

It sounds like you’re feeling attachment due to past experiences. It’s okay to feel sad when parting!