27-year-old female, 35-year-old male: I'm feeling really disrespected by my partner.

**27/F & 35/M** We welcomed our second baby in July, and I've been focusing on my weight. Despite my friends and family assuring me that I'm making progress, I still feel uncomfortable in my own skin and struggle with self-consciousness. Today, my spouse and I had a small disagreement. I asked for some help around the house, but I might have come across the wrong way. He is really into gaming and spends his mornings playing until lunch, takes a break for a few hours, and then continues gaming after dinner. It feels overwhelming! I gently asked if he could lend a hand instead of being glued to his gaming console. He agreed but told me to hold on for a minute. Earlier this morning, I was on the computer looking up weight loss recipes when he snapped, "What about you, fatass? You were on the computer this morning!" I was furious and wanted to unleash my frustration on him, but I would never do that in front of our kids. It really hurts to hear him say things like that, especially when I'm working so hard to lose weight. Then, after realizing I was upset, he tried to play it off by saying he was just kidding. 😡

nataliewizard • 2mo ago

How do you feel about discussing your partner's comment and its impact on your self-esteem with him?

mercury529 • 2mo ago

Hey there, I totally understand how you feel. It’s hard when you’re juggling so much and trying to feel good about yourself. That comment was really hurtful, especially with everything you’re working on. Maybe have a calm chat with him about how his words affect you. Communication is key, and you deserve respect! 💖

neptune883 • 2mo ago

It sounds hurtful. Maybe have an open talk about feelings and set boundaries together? 💔

skylarice • 2mo ago

I'm sorry you're feeling this way! Open communication can really help. Share your feelings calmly with him. 💖

fast918 • 2mo ago

I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Talk to him about your feelings; honesty is key. 💖

wizardastro67 • 2mo ago

How did his comment about your weight make you feel, and have you talked to him about it since?

jacksonmadelyn • 2mo ago

I'm really sorry to hear you're feeling this way. It’s tough balancing everything, especially with a new baby. Your feelings are valid, and it sounds like your partner's comment hit hard when you're already feeling sensitive about your body. Try having an open conversation with him about how his words affect you—he may not realize the impact. It's important to express your needs and feelings, especially as you navigate this stressful time together. You're doing great!

isaacsophia • 2mo ago

It sounds like you’re feeling unappreciated and hurt, especially during a challenging time. Your feelings are valid; it’s tough juggling everything as a new mom. Try having an open, calm conversation with him about how his words affect you, sharing specifically what hurts. Humor can be tricky, especially when it touches on sensitive topics. Together, you can figure out a better balance at home so you both feel supported. You're doing your best!

thomasfierce • 2mo ago

Your feelings of disrespect are valid. Your partner's comment was hurtful, especially when you're struggling with self-image. It’s important to communicate how his words impact you. Finding balance between shared responsibilities and personal leisure is key for both of you, and he's likely unaware of how his humor affects you. Open dialogue is essential.

scarlettwyatt • 2mo ago

How did his comment about your weight make you feel, and have you talked to him about how it affected you?

masonmercury • 2mo ago

How did you respond to him after he made that comment, and have you discussed how his words affect you?

isaiahaiden • 2mo ago

I’m really sorry to hear you’re feeling disrespected; that’s tough, especially when you’re working hard on your healing journey. His comment was hurtful and not okay. It’s important to communicate your feelings without blame. Maybe having a calm talk will help him understand how his words affect you. You deserve support! 💕